Colleague keeps talking about weight around me

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I have PCOS and I am a bit overweight. Whenever I'm around she's talking about things such as dieting, weight loss, obesity. Telling other colleague they look like they've lost weight and asks about their diet. Then the colleague who she was speaking to told her she used to be a size 16/18 and she said 'oh wow, did you really?' I felt uncomfortable as that's my size now.

She said the word obesity in a conversation the other day and immediately looked at me. She looks at me when she does it. I feel as though she's having a dig at me or doing it on purpose. It's starting to annoy me. What would you do?

I doubt it's a personal dig. She's just boosting someone else's ego who has lost weight.

You're taking a comment personally that isn't meant for you.

I would think that but its always in separate conversations when I'm around and she's always going on about dieting. if talking about obesity she looks at me for my reaction

I’d probably have enough of this one day and pretend I was concerned by her always banging on about this tedious topic. Something like, “Do you mind me asking - are you ok? I just couldn’t help noticing you seem very concerned with weight and food. I have a medical condition which is probably why I notice you talking about diets a lot.” And I’d watch her squirm.

Just make an observation, "Liz,, I've noticed you talk about weight and dieting a lot."

YNBU, for 2 reasons. At the worst, she is being passive-aggressive at best insensitive. I learnt the hard way not to comment on weight loss at work years. I complimented someone on losing weight, and they burst into tears, asking, "Did I look that bad beforehand?". Whether she is being passive-aggressive to you? I don't know, you know her personality. Put your headphones on so you can't hear her.

Look sympathetic and say "oh Brenda, it's not worth upsetting yourself. We understand and you're doing so well. You just keep it up and I'm sure you'll reach your target weight before you know it" then smile sweetly and swan away.

My SIL mentioned being a 6 once, I said oh I'm a 12. She looked horrified in a bizarre cartoon way. My DH was shocked at her reaction and told her not to be horrible