Hiya, would appreciate thoughts please…I feel like I kind of know the answer, but also I can be a bit shy, so 🤷🏻♀️
Been mates with this other school mum for about 4 years. She’s a good laugh but kind of self-centred, and richer than most so can be thoughtless…
Anyway, she keeps asking for childcare. I’m NOT a childminder, I work FT, have 2 kids, one SEN, and also am voluntarily on the PTA and a Scout Leader, I have very little free time.
The asks have been ramping up but lately it got to piss-taking levels. That’s when my daughter was poorly at home, but my husband had to take their kid to football anyway, as friend’s DH was late out of work. (friend was at home but couldn’t be arsed taking her kid. I am pissed with DH for agreeing).
She text to say thanks, to which I made it clear that I wasn’t ok with our family changing plans/ missing prior commitments when the kid had a parent at home able to help. From my pov if their kids couldn’t go to a club that’s their family’s problem, not mine. Certainly if I was late out of work and my DH couldn’t be fafffed taking our kid to a club, the kid would miss the club / we certainly wouldn’t pass our shit on to another family!
Didnt hear anything from ‘friend’ for another month. Then a text to ask for 11 hours babysitting on a Sunday, pickup beyond any of our bedtimes. Explained it was the business most stressful month of my life EVER and declined.
Since then she’s blanked me for 4 months straight. I keep wanting to believe she’s better than that, send an olive branch etc… but another part of me really has no desire to pursue a friendship with a user.
I kind of know the answer but need slaps in the face from strangers to remind me not to be soft. Thank you!!!
TL: DR - do I need a using dickead as a mate?!