What do you think is a strict parent?

[SmellyNelliey]

My DD10 friends think I'm a strict parent.
I don't allow dd to wonder the streets.
She has a routine we stick to.
If her behaviour isn't great or she's not listening i take devices of her.
I also lock her phone until her bed is made and room tidy.
YABU- I'm a strict parent
YANBU- I'm not a strict parent

I’m an even stricter parent because my 10 year old doesn’t have a phone.

Pretty average.

Depends what you class as "not great" behaviour, really.

I don't think you're strict because 10 is very young to have a phone

Depends what sort of behaviour you count as not great.

I don't think a 10 year old with a phone is a sign of a strict parent. I think that's pretty relaxed.

It's not that young if you consider walking alone etc

I suppose I’d class that as strict (but that’s not always a negative term!). My parents were extremely easy going, I didn’t have curfews or rules or consequences really, and my internet access was 24/7 unsupervised. If my friends had things they ‘weren’t allowed’ or they were grounded for something I remember I always found it so harsh!!

I think now it’s better to protect your kids from online devices, group chats etc for as long as possible.

10 is very young to be wandering the streets so that’s not strict

Having sanctions for not making bed and tidying room daily seems very strict to me - surely sanction for not making bed is that you have to get into an unmade bed?

I think a strict parent is one who has rules that are completely inflexible eg. bedtime is at 8pm and a child has to go to bed at 8pm even if finishing watching a programme one evening would mean a bedtime of 8.15. Or a parent who insists a child finishes everything on a plate despite the child having a particular aversion to that food - I've little time for fussy eaters but a child is allowed to have a few genuine dislikes. Being very controlling about letting children visit friends is another personal

So a strict parent, imo, is one who has set their mind on some rules and is single-minded in enforcing them regardless of context.

Doesn’t sound like the child is just using it for safety reasons, though.

Can I change and make this my answer?

If your 10 year old has a phone that she's allowed in her room, you're not a strict parent. Mine still aren't allowed phones in their rooms in Y10 & Y8!

I would read that as very strict in some areas and very lax in others:

• I have never make my bed even now as an adult so insisting on it everyday feels very strict to me
• Again insisting on a tidy room everyday is very strict to me
• However very lax because she has a phone at 10, no matter that the rules are around it that's very young to me. I'm assuming there that it's a smart phone and not just a brick for walking to/from school.

No comments on the going out because that would largely depend on your area

I think strict means that you make sure your dc, or whoever you're in charge of, stick to the rules and mete out consequences when they're not followed. You're not a pushover and are prepared to hear the dreaded phrase, "I don't like you. I hate you!" from them but you aren't easily swayed.

Your rules I think are generally fair but I let my dc play on the streets.

Regarding her phone,shes now home schooled so this is a way to stay in contact with a few girls from middle school,I have a app called family link where I have to give permission for everything on it.
Regarding the bed and tidy room I've 4 children so I keep to this for all of them,l not just DD.

Does "wander the streets" include going to the park for an hour with friends? Considering she's home schooled, I would relax a bit on that one.