SIL pissed mum might be moving closer to me

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I moved away from my family quite some time ago. My SIL/ brother moved closer to my mum years ago, for work reasons.

In any case, my mum has been considering moving closer to me. We've lived apart for many years and I would absolutely love to have her living close by.

My dad has passed away and my mum is very lonely. She doesn't see my brother and SIL, plus their kids very regularly and spends a lot of time just being lonely. They have a reasonably good relationship, but my mum doesn't feel that welcome / looked after by them.

SIL now seems miffed that mum wants to come and live near me again. AIBU that it's not her place and my mum can do what she wants with her life ?

Well your sil is allowed to feel how she feels. The same as your mum can do as she wishes

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In what way does she 'seem' miffed? I mean has she actually done or said anything? Sorry your mum is so lonely, might be a bit closer to you if you're happy to be her support, be careful riding to her aid though, a dependant parent can be a mixed blessing

Honestly I'd be annoyed too if my OH had relocated me and our kids to be closer to his mum and she decided she was going to move closer to his sister that had previously moved away from her!

I have a similar situation in my family in that my brother and SIL are always annoyed that my mum spends quite a lot of time with me and my family but not with them. However, we invite my mum to ours or days out all the time and they don't. My SIL is jealous of our relationship but she has her own mum so🤷‍♀️I assume your mum is moving closer to you and then she'll be seeing you a lot? That's what she's not getting from your brother so I can completely understand why she'd want to be closer to you.

They moved for work reasons, not to hold my mums hand. They also moved nearly 20 years ago now.

Similar situation indeed.

I hope your mum moves and enjoys every minute she gets extra with you!

What makes you think SIL is upset? If she is why do you think that would be?

Maybe it’s your brother who doesn’t want to see your mum that much while SIL likes her more. Who can say.

You seem to think you’re getting one over on them. I hope it all works out as you’re hoping.

Your SIL sounds like she’s not a mumsnetter - most on here would be delighted if their MIL was moving away!
Its not your SILs business anyway, it’s your mums. Let your SIL be miffed if she wants, she can’t stop your mum from moving away. Infact if she’s being weird about it your mum will probably be even more glad she’s moving.