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To feel uncomfortable with bump pics

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AuntieJay · 20/09/2024 12:18

I don’t know if I’m being precious so seeking opinions – I’m 32 week pregnant with my first, I’m measuring big due to big baby and excess fluid and have been told by lots of people how ‘huge’ I am which upset me when there were concerns about baby but now I know they’re ok I just laugh it off.
What I do find awkward is my MIL asking to take pictures of my bump to show her mum, DH’s granny, who is unwell in hospital and lives far away. She says she ‘needs a picture to cheer her up’ which feels like I’m being guilted into posing when I just don’t enjoy being the centre of attention that way. Am I being mean refusing?

She asked me after a meal out last night and I just said no but I know she’ll ask again tonight as they’re visiting and leaving tomorrow.
I love DH’s granny and am happy to update her on bub, send scan pics etc. and we’ve been to visit. I’ve even said to DP that he can share the name we’ve picked if he’d like even though we’ve been keeping it quiet (because I don’t want his mum’s opinions) as it might be nice for her to know but I feel like I have to pose for these pictures like a show pony and I really don’t want to. Am I overthinking this?

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sugarplum33 · 20/09/2024 12:24

I wish I had taken more photos of my bump tbh! Can you use it as an opportunity to get her to take a nice photo of you and DH with the bump featuring but not the sole focus of the photo?

Borninabarn32 · 20/09/2024 12:24

I was one of those women who post bump pictures on Facebook, I liked it. No YANBU your body is not for anybody else's enjoyment. You don't want to show your belly to those people, so you don't have to. It really is that simple. And don't feel like you have to share the name before you're ready either just appease them. It will stand you in good stead to be putting "my body my rules" boundaries in place ready for the "my baby my rules" boundaries.

You could, if you have a baby app, keep them up to date with what baby is doing this week in their growth, the app tells you when they can hear or when they're developing certain body parts.

GiantHornets · 20/09/2024 12:25

No need for bump photos. Just say no!

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