To hire a cleaner as a single woman?

[Silentfriend]

I’ve been thinking about hiring a cleaner to come in once a week, but I’m single and live alone in a small space, so part of me feels like I should be able to handle it all myself. However, between work and other commitments, I just don’t have the energy to keep everything spotless.

AIBU to hire a cleaner even though it’s just me, or is that a bit much for someone who doesn’t have a big family or house to manage?

I clean for a single person, I do weekly but I know some people do every other week. I don't think it matters if your alone or a family etc if your working and are strugggling why not hire someone to come and take away the stress! If I could afford a cleaner and I didn't work I'd still hire one!

Oh for god’s sake hire one! Who cares - and who’s going to know? Do you think most single men stop to think about this?

I’m single, I had a cleaner for years and I would have one again like a shot if I could afford it. I didn’t want to get home from work and spend my time hoovering, mopping etc. It was hugely beneficial to my mental health to get back up and find the house clean.

I had a cleaner when I lived alone in a flat she came weekly for 2 hours. Changed the bedding, vacuumed, mopped, dusted and cleaned the kitchen and bathroom and fid basic tisying - you know, cushions all plumped up, things on kitchen xounter lined up etc. I never felt a moments guilt. She saved my sanity. I worked long hours and earned well. I paid well, treated her well. Win win.

Gosh it's your money, if you can afford it do it. Spend the time doing more fun things!

Do you never eat out because you could manage to make it yourself? Never buy clothes as you could manage with what you have?

life isn’t a penance for something, do what the fuck you want to make your life easier

If you can afford it and don't want to spend your time cleaning then do it. You'll be glad you did.

Couldn’t have put it better myself

Get the cleaner..I'm a cleaner and will work for anyone, I don't judge! In fact I work for a lady who.lives alone in a small house.

All the times in my life I've had a cleaner, I've been a single woman and the first time I lived in a 2 bed flat.

It was so lovely to just come home from work to everything clean and because I lived alone and was out a lot - it didn't get that much worse during the week.

It's something I would 100% do again in a heartbeat in the same situation.

I work full time and can't afford a cleaner and my house is a mess a lot of the time and it's depressing. If I could afford one I would in an instant. So if you can afford it then do it.

It's not a moral question. There's no 'should' here.

House cleaners provide a service for a price. Either you think the benefits of the service justify the cost or you don't. That's a value judgement only you can make. If you think the cost is worth not having to do it yourself, you're right. If you think the benefit doesn't justify the money, you're right.

Do whatever you want. It's your life, your money.

My cleaner is so much better at cleaning than me. Even if I had all the time and energy in the world, I couldn't achieve the standard she does.

Do you think that a man would ever ask this question ?

If you want one and can afford it then why not?

This is a capitalist society; we pay people to do things for us, whether that’s driving a bus to take us to work, providing clothing we don’t see ourselves or cleaning our homes.

I would hire a cleaner in a heartbeat if I had the disposable. Go for it, OP!

I live alone in a small house. I also have a busy job and frankly want to enjoy my spare time rather than spending it keeping on top of the house. I therefore have a cleaner - she's wonderful and it's been totally transformative. It also compels me to tidy up a minimum of once a week

Absolutely not being unreasonable.

Get hiring!

Life is too short. If you can afford it, do it.

if you can afford it then do it, I would love a cleaner with 3 adult kids, OH and dog - however I would need one daily with my lot, it's never clean

I actually live in a 2-bed flat too! When I say small, I mean it’s not too large or particularly difficult to clean. Thank you for spurring me on!

Thank you all, I’ll definitely hire one

This is no different to hiring a taxi, or getting a takeaway or any other service that makes your life easier.

I had a cleaner from the age of 26 and single.

Sadly not that age anymore, but if you can easily afford it just organise one.

You really don't need to ask anyone's permission to hire a cleaner. If you want one and you can afford it, why not?
Life's too short to worry what other people might think. It's nobody else's business whether you choose to employ a cleaner or not.

If you can afford it and it improves your quality of life - go for it! These are the only relevant factors in this decision, not whether you are single and the size of your living space.

I have always had a cleaner. I actually see it as supporting other women as they are usually working around children etc

I also pay my cleaner when I go on holiday.