Smart replies to text messages

[PepaWepa]

I received a response to a message I'd sent to my boyfriend. The response was a negative one. He was drunk. The following day said he hadn't meant to send that and it was a smart reply suggestion he pressed accidentally.

The meaning behind the response is relationship ruining if it turns out he did send it himself, drunk, and then realised and regretted it. If it's a genuine accident, fine.

I asked my friend to text me the same message to see what smart replies were suggested for me, and the one he sent me wasn't suggested, and were more geared towards future tense as opposed to past tense like his.

Do all phones give the same suggested responses? Or am I rightful in doubting this slightly? Am I overthinking this too much?

What was the message?

I did 👍

I think it does suggestions based on your past history.

What did you say? I find WhatsApp/Messenger often tries to answer questions I've been asked (usually incorrectly!). So if someone messages me asking "Did you watch xxx on TV?", WhatsApp etc. will usually suggest three variations of "I did", at least one with an emoji.

@EBearhug Ohh okay, thank you, that's helpful

@MyLordWizardKing the message started with "makes me think you're..."

I think given that he's telling you it was a smart reply, you either believe him or you don't. You have no way of proving if he meant to send it. So the bigger question is do you trust him or not?

I think it generates messages based on the most likely response combined with your previous responses, so wouldn't necessarily be the same for everyone.

I've accidentally sent some right passive aggressive shit to my husband by pressing the smart response by accident while trying to reply to be fair. But what on earth did he say that could be relationship ending? The auto responses are normally just one or two words or an emoji!

Let me experiment... I'll let it write the next line.

Yes Sir and I have been working in the same reporting team with a couple though in my 50s to be a one of my friends and a family friend in the world who wants a good one of us pupils and a team of good friends in a group who will help me with your thrusts to make the most successful and possible for you and I hope to see if it is worth the effort and I hope that you can do the same time they will ask about contraception

So er, yes...

@MyLordWizardKing also sent another one afterwards saying "are you?"

So it could have been suggested to that

Oh sorry, I don't mean like that (I'm useless with technology and don't know how to explain it 😅) I mean the auto-reply suggestions when you're notified of a text

So you thought he was cheating and he said that he did? It could be an auto response, it could not. It doesn't sound like a deliberate response to be fair! It's a bit hard with only pieces of the context.

Do you trust him? If you were asking if he cheated (big assumption from me!) then that sounds like a no..?

@YesThatsATurdOnTheRug he was asking if I had cheated. I asked why he's asking and said that it makes me think he's doing it to me.

From the context, it doesn't sound completely outlandish as a reply suggestion. Very bad time to accidentally choose it though!

I'm going to try

Makes me think you're...

The only person that knows what you mean, when I say you're the only one who knows what I mean when I say how much of an idiot you really are.

This was my WhatsApp automatic suggestion response 😂

He may be telling the truth.

That's predictive text. I assume the OP is talking about when you get a message and the message app suggests full sentences to respond with that you just tap on to send in their entirety.

I don't think it matters much, if he's accusing you of cheating on him the relationship isn't in a good place is it?

Okay thank you all. I'll stop overthinking it now then 🙂💐

So it went:

Him "Are you cheating?"
You "No why, the fact that you're asking makes me think you are cheating on me."
Him "I did 👍"
Him "Are you?"

Yeah totally could have been a smart reply, however WTF is he asking you that for? That's not a healthy relationship.

@Scallopp he has been cheated on before and does have trust issues, but tbh they rarely come out. Sometimes if he's had a drink and he's at home and overthinks things. He didn't ask if I am, but if I have (I don't know if that makes a difference).

Hes not going to have admitted he's cheated in that context. It's obv a smart reply.

@Scallopp I just thought maybe with alcohol involved it may have come out before thinking. But thanks, I'm going to trust it was a smart reply.

This, I can possibly see it as one of the predictive suggested replies (my phone does this - three options) but the conversation itself, drunk or otherwise is concerning all by itself. Red flags a go go. Was he absolutely beside himself when he saw the response he’d sent?