To Just Leave?

[OneCanWonder]

As the title says.
I'm 3 months in a job I hate.
I'll be careful with what I put here as it may be outing but I work in a public facing role.
Very little support from management, chaotic work environment, left in charge of a site, whilst lone working (other people in the building but not my colleagues but also left completely on my own sometimes).
Training has been sporadic and if I need clarification on anything I'm expected to phone another site only they never bloody answer.
As things stop and start with me I've found I'm starting earlier, missing my break, working through some/all of my lunch and staying on for a bit after work to keep on top of things.
I addition to this I've had a shit time with family members being unwell, I am a carer for another family member (no support from anyone else here either) and I'm just about done.
DH has been really good and told me to leave and take some time out but the Muppet people-pleaser in me doesn't want to leave work in the lurch if I just leave even though I'm absolutely dreading going in tomorrow and feel sick at the thought of it.
DH says I should just phone in sick and then send in my notice.
Incidentally, I don't actually have a contract, only an offer letter I got the day before I started and I'm being paid minimum wage - which I only found out when I received the offer letter - so I think they've been quite sneaky and underhand from the off. Oh, and I won't get paid for being off sick anyway.
If any of my mates were in this position I'd be telling them to leave pronto so am I being unreasonable to take my own advice?

Yeah go find something else

That sounds awful OP - yep, get a different job.

You don't owe them anything and if financially you can afford to walk away do it. Life is too short being unhappy at work. I'd be up front with them though and say politely why you're going.

I’m leaving my job next month but my last shift is 1.5 weeks time as getting fed up of crying due to store manager’s bullying behaviour plus numerous other things. This is after 17 years of working there

Going on holiday a couple of days after that - so want to enjoy it. Then when i come back, concentrate on job hunting.

Money wise - I’m ok as got paid today, then 4 weeks time plus cashed in a staff share scheme where buy shares at about 20% lower than rate at the time and pay money into it over 3 years and it matures after that time. Plus no mortgage

I said I want a change in career. Love to be 100% truthful in the store manager’s face but could see him getting worse

By your own admission, they've been underhand. Do the maths on how many extra hours you do; you do far lower than minimum wage, in a job you hate. Move on.

You can stay in this job which you find exhausting and worrying and for which you don't even have a proper contract. You can do it because it will please the company or individual who set up this unsustainable structure and is exploiting you. Isn't that worth it? Hang on in there. Meanwhile you can reject the support of your DH and the advice of MN folk whose opinion you asked for. Best of all, you call yourself a muppet.

You can do all of this, but keep remembering that you are the one who is choosing it - nobody is making you do it.

Just an update ... I had to call in sick today. Migraine and vomiting. Let work know.
Was told to do something completely different from the protocol and made to feel awful about being ill so I've just emailed in my resignation.
Thanks for the comments - deep down I knew I was going to have to leave this this has given me the push I needed.

Well done op. I Hope you feel better soon. 💐💐💐

Well done! Hope you're feeling better soon. 💐

You did well to last three months. Fuck 'em, they have been treating you terribly so well done for resigning.

There is better out there for you OP, take some time then go and find it.

Well done for deciding to leave OP. It's enough to give anyone a migraine.

Well done they sound awful.

A few people - colleagues and others said to me since I handed in my notice that it shows strength to getting myself out of the horrible place. I got sick of crying all the time. Despite me upping my antidepressants.

Do you know I rather go through the two weeks before the first lockdown again (selfish shelf stripping) than the last 3-4 months of hell from the store manager. Mentioned this to former colleagues who left/retired inbetween and they were shocked.

Can't believe one person has made 10 staff leave due to his behaviour. A few others are thinking about it. There would be no one left. It's the hard workers with common sense who are leaving. The ones who don't rotate, can't tell the difference between courgettes and cucumbers, dog and cat food (yes I have seen this) remain

When customers ask "why don't you get more staff?" I respond to them with "who wants to work for a bully manager?" That usually shuts them up. Then since handed in notice "only X more shifts before I go myself" or "you won't see me in this uniform after X (date)"

Good for you OP! Hope you feel better soon.