Noone seems to get it

[Kworms]

My partner doesn't understand what I say and my mum doesn't understand either. I work five days a week with three school age kids.

My mum tells me I don't care about her or says she feels guilty taking up my time if its longer than two weeks between visits and my partner says I don't have time for them if I don't have time to listen to their problems each day

I have health conditions, work full time and normally don't have time to think or catch a breath on a daily basis. With average of five hours sleep a night I normally wake up exhausted and spend the morning moaning at the kids and my partner to get ready.

AIBU to try and prioritize my energy for a few weeks so I can recouperate, which will hopefully give me more energy to manage day to day demands?

What is your partner doing to support you with your health problems and to fulfil their fair share of housework and childcare? Is your mum offering you help with things, such as occasionally or regularly having the children? It sounds as though everyone needs a wake-up call, maybe including you, to point out that you are not there simply for everyone else’s benefit.

Is your partner the parent of your children?

Does your partner help you?
Does your partner enrich your life?
Do you love your partner?
Are you and your partner a good team?

I've been in your position, it's exhausting. I've always been a people pleaser, stems from a dysfunctional upbringing. Ran myself ragged for years.
Your mums guilt is her own feeling she's projecting onto you.
And your partner needs to pull their head out of their arse and see the amount of pressure you are under.
Easy for me to say, took me a long time to put my boundaries in place.