Is it too early to leave a party?

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Went to a party and I’m worried I left too early. It was a 6 hour drive to get there. I was up at 630am that day. Checked into hotel. Made way to party. Got there at 730pm. Drank too quickly. Was done in by 1130pm and went back to hotel. Obviously party host is very disappointed in me, and I feel like an absolute failure. Thoughts?

You were there for several hours. Was it worth the 6 hour drive?

Sounds fine to me other than the drinking too much. But clearly I'm an old fart who would always rather be in bed by midnight!

What time was it due to go on until? I often leave parties by that time these days.

I can't go beyond 9 myself, so I say well done. Especially on a work night

I think that’s a respectable time to leave. After 11pm is fair game and even earlier after that length of drive.

You do what suits you. You turned up . Stayed a respectful time. Got tired ,went to bed. I bet the party continued well after you left so you didn’t ruin it for the host.
No harm done.
As I’ve got older I often just disappear off to bed around 11-12pm. Done my partying. Time to F off to bed Doesn’t spoil the night for anyone still partying and I had a great time

I’d have travelled the day before the party. Six hours is a long journey ( I think anyway) so I wouldn’t have done it for just one night and to only stay at a party for 4 hours.

I thought you were going to say you were in bed by 8! 11.30 is quite late enough.

You have a party so people can enjoy themselves, not to boss people around about when they’re allowed to go to bed. See also: people ordering you to dance. Piss off, I dance when I feel like it not at the behest of your fragile ego’s demands!

Who is the host and do they realise you travelled for 6 hours(!) just to be there?! 4 hours is a reasonable party-duration even if you hadn't been travelling for a chunk of the day!

Tell them to get a grip and don't bother the next time.

We're driving 6 hrs each way to a party next weekend, travelling on the day. Ours starts at 5.30pm and I will be surprised I make it past 11pm. I would hope our friends appreciate the effort we have made to attend and don't get annoyed because we left before some arbitrary time in their heads (fortunately I know our friends well enough to know this will be the case).

You put a huge effort in to attend their event and they should appreciate that. It's not like you left at 8.30!

Thanks everyone. I so wish that I had been able to stay up late but I think the journey took it out of me l! for context. I am 55. I just felt so shit leaving at that time when the host was pleading with me not to leave but overdrunk I ended up going back to the hotel and did a face plant into the bed. I am such a disaster.

I think the host should be thanking you for driving 6 hours to their party.

You really, really aren't! I'm 57 and no way could I be arsed with driving all that way for a party.

Also, when I go to parties I leave when I've had enough - and that 's about two hours.

Don't beat yourself up OP - you've honestly done your bit.

I'm 37 and I'd have left same time! I hope you had a good hotel breakfast 😊

Eh! 11.30 isn't early.

That's a reasonable time to leave in view of your long journey and age. You're not a teenager partying all night long.

I'm 42 and that's way past my bedtime so you did fine !
Also your host is rude after a 6 hour drive.

Was it a house party or at a venue? If she wanted to go on late I wouldn't have started at 7.30. I can easily stay up into the early hours but not now if I've started early.

11.30 is fine.

This!!!!

Not sure I'd have driven 6 hours to go to a party especially if I was likely to only stay for 4!!!

I think you left very early, you'd only been there a few hours! But if you'd drunk too much and felt unwell then there nothing else you found have done. I'd have been annoyed with myself though if that had happened to me because of the long journey and hotel stay just for a few hours fun.

Hope it was good while it lasted!!

I think you left very early

11.30 isn't very early. Do you always keep very late hours?. I think 4 hours is plenty long enough to stay at a party, especially if I had just driven 6 hours.

If someone had driven 6 hours to see me I would be delighted.

The host sounds very rude.
You drove a long way to be there, you stayed reasonably late, if anyone has the right to be irritated, it's you.
Hopefully it's just because they were drunk and it will be forgotten going forward, or they will apologise.

You have done nothing wrong that's a long day and a big drive like that it's tiring. They should be appreciative that you made the effort