Help me tell someone to shut up nicely

[ZestyDog]

I've lived here in my home town for my entire life. Like everywhere it has it's problems, but overall it's not a bad place.

A couple of years ago I made a new friend at a hobby group, who I will call Sue. We have both since left the group but joined another, and see each other a couple times a week.
Sue moved here to live with her son and DIL. She's from a city, not a small town. She hates it.
She can't move back as her family want to stay, and she couldn't afford it now anyway, plus she has a few health/mobility issues, which is why she moved in with her family. She's unsafe to live alone.
Every time I see her, Sue complains that she doesn't like the town, and has a huge list of grievances. Not enough shops or cafes, too windy, the roads.... Too many to list. We're not bohemian enough for her.
I'm a fairly quiet person and don't want to fall out with her, but I'm close to losing my rag. I know she doesn't like it, I get that, but I do. It's my home.

I need a way to tell her to stop. I don't want to upset her or be brusque. And I can't not see her without giving up my hobby. (Small town remember...no other options for it).
I need a few stock phrases to repeat every time she starts that aren't "Shut up Sue, you're doing my head in"

Just say 'look, I know you don't like it BUT I do - either move or learn to enjoy it - life is too short to moan constantly and to be honest it's getting a bit draining each time I see you'.

I'm an introvert and this is exactly the route I'd go down.

Especially if you only see each other at a hobby club.

Life is too short to hint at things.

I would just say “Yes. So you keep saying” with a and pity in my heart for her DS/SIL who probably have to hear this all the time. But I’m not familiar with the small town thing.

Negative people can be so draining. My mum is one of them. I just let her go on (and on) while thinking about other things…

'Well Sue, it's a shame you don't like it here. I love this town, and so do my family. I guess it's our home which makes it special.'

Oh God, I'd have to be straightforward about it. Not offensive, but enough to make her think twice about doing it again. Can't stand listening to people whinge on!

"Oh, give it a rest, Sue! It's not that bloody bad. What's new, anyway? Hows X doing?" With a bit of a friendly smile, but a tone that says you've had enough of listening to her moan.

This, she's not bothered about being rude/insulting to you/your home, why not return the honesty?

This is exactly what I'd do- frame it as concern but make it crystal clear her excessive wanging on is abnormal and worthy of getting some help.

I agree with this too. She's actually being bloody rude. It's fine if she would prefer to live elsewhere but most people would get pissed off with where they live constantly being insulted and slated non stop.

lol I like these 🤣

Ugh.

id call her out a bit.

hey sue, I know you’re going through things. But you realize this is my home? That coffee shop is run by ‘my daughter’s friend, fiiends daughter’ and I like that boutique, and we have TWO hobby groups. You are welcome to dislike this place, but please, I don’t need to hear it