Worried about sons mental wellbeing

[mummytotwoxo]

My son is 4, he just started primary school a few weeks ago. He really struggling with adjusting. He has adhd, sensory processing disorder and suspected ASD but no diagnosis as of yet. He's gone from 2 half pre school days, to 5 full school days with no one to one teacher to help him regulate himself. He's chewing holes in is clothes likely cause by stress (sensory seaking) for the second week I cannot for the life of me get him to wear his PE kit let alone can anyone actually persuade him do the PE. He's not eating great, coming home miserable and worked up. Is it wrong if me to think about maybe requesting a part time timetable for the mean time? Or just let him get used to it? My heart breaks every time he begs me not to take him. The teachers are very busy with all the new students I don't feel like I ever get the opopportunity to have a proper chat with his teacher about my concerns. Am I overreacting, how can I make it easier for him.

Arrange a proper meeting with the SENCo. Have they put any reasonable adjustments in place?

I don't think you're overreacting . He is only 4 and it's a huge change for them even without any additional needs. My eldest struggled in a similar way and in hindsight, I'd have reduced his hours and built up the time he was in school more slowly. I agree it's difficult to get the chance to have a casual chat with the teachers. Go into the office and say you want a face to face meeting with the teacher as soon as possible so you can have a proper chat, I have had to do this with every new teacher in the first few weeks of term. Keep in mind his young age too and the fact that all children develop at slightly different rates, so you're not comparing or beating yourself up if your child isn't coping or achieving like other older children in his class. Good luck.

He forest need to go to school consider home education

Unfortunately not at the moment he's just being treated like every other child at the moment, the only thing his teacher has suggested is getting him a chew toy to stop him ruining his clothes

I will do this! I'm also new to the whole school situation he's my first to start proper school, I wasn't sure who I had to actually contact to arrange meetings!

I have considered home education but I worry about him making friends or gaining social skills.

Look on Facebook for local groups, there’s so much to do and so many home educated children.

We recently went away with about 15 other home Ed families for a week the children had a great time together.
There are art classes, sports groups, meet ups, Co-op learning groups, and so much more, day trips with other home educators to museums, theme parks and so much more. plus the after school things they can try.

there’s no need for a home educated child not to have lots of social interactions and make plenty of friends, the difference is they do it in their own way and can chose to spend time with people and in settings that truly make them happy and benefit them rather than ones they are forced into based on their age and geographical location.

home education gives children so much choice over how they live their lives and really benefits kids who need extra support.