To feel a bit jealous of my lovely colleague?

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I joined a team less than 3 months ago so nearly through probationary period. Ive had positive feedback from my manager and clients so far.

Last week in a team meeting my colleague gushed about Hannah, a colleague on another team, saying she was amazing and that they wanted her for our team. Apparently another colleague (who never replies to me on chat) also loves her.

The announcement came today she is joining the team. She's lovely so I've no issue with it.

But I'm worried they hired me and now decided she was hiding in plain sight and they like her more. I also know promotions in each team are limited.

Have you passed your probationary period?

She sounds like a great addition to the team. Why are you worried?

Seems as if you’re being unreasonable - there’s another role in your team available and they’ve brought someone in they think can do the job. Does this actually affect your role?

Not yet @Ponoka7 looking like I will though

I know I'm being silly. I do like her a lot. She will be working on some things with me and with other colleagues.

Its just I'm worried the team prefer her and I really want to make a good impression this early in the door. The fact one of the people raving about her consistently ignores my comms is part of it.

Saying that you think they prefer her sounds a bit school playground tbh. Just focus on doing a good job, it takes time to build working relationships

Figure out why they like her so much and do the same. Mostly with these people they come across as super nice and friendly and ass-kiss a lot, and that's why they're liked and get bonuses and promoted, not because they're actually great at what they do. But I agree if they already knew her it will take time for them to see you the same way. If that's how you want to be seen - I prefer to be honest and people don't like that and I don't care.

You are barely through your probationary period and you are already fixating on competition for future promotions. How about just focussing on doing a good job and not being jealous of other people who do a good job?

Are you worried she'll be more likely to be promoted than you or is it genuinely just upset that people seem to like her more?

Nah, I work in quite a good natured workplace and we all occasionally say things like this about most colleagues or associates who aren't in the room, so it stands to reason that they'll do the same about me when I'm not there. I'm sure that's what's happening at your place

I think this is fair. Just do your job well, focus on now and your performance, maintain excellent relations with colleagues, and address communications with the colleague who doesn’t reply.

I’ve always found the easiest way to a friendly workplace is for good people to join the team. If I was you would take this at face value - a nice person is joining the team - and I certainly wouldn’t second-guess motivations or future events as Hannah might not even want promotion.

Plus it could be a good thing that the toxic colleague is focused on Hannah. It keeps you out of their firing line.