Childcare poorly kids

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Youngest started again sleeping at dad's two nights mid week, he wont adjust working hours so drops the girls off to where he parks his car and they have to walk to me (12 & 16) at 7am. They then make their way to school from mine. He won't drive them to me, leave home 5 mins early / he wont make reasonable adjustments with work for childcare. I have adjusted my working hours to be there for them in the morning on 'his days'

12 year old physically sick today, so he has dropped dc with me today and gone to work.. no discussion, text or phone call. So I've had to call in work and had to take unpaid leave. I'll always care for my children, this isn't the issue it's the self importance and lack of communication / giving a toss from him.

I would have the kids full time but it's important they have time with both parents and trying to maintain an amicable relationship but it's so so hard.

Am I being unreasonable to be so so angry about today?

He is being extremely unreasonable. Why does he think it’s ok for you to miss work but not him?

He thinks at 12 she is old enough to be home alone. I use to faint when I was sick 😫

Bumping as interested to hear other people's opinions with this?

Does your 12 year old faint when she is sick?

How much childcare do you really need for a 12 and 16 year old? My DS was a latch key kid from age 11, I'm a single parent and had to work full time. He was perfectly capable of being home alone for a couple of hours and getting himself to and from school. Is it too far for them to make their own way to school from their dad's?

It would be nice if he stayed home when they were sick though but a lot of men are crap like that.

I don’t have a 12 yr old but remember when I was 12 and sick I stayed home alone. I knew if I needed a doctor I could go to the school nurse or walk in clinic and sometimes I did (both were about 10 mins walk from home). I knew what and when I could take and would just stay in bed watch tv etc.

He's a complete arsehole. Which is probably why you are no longer with him.

I agree he's not great but I've left mine at home at that age sick, no choice

If he reckons she can stay home alone and that was his plan all along, why didn’t he suggest she stay at his?

Depending on how sick I would leave a 12 yo at home. Of course not a very sick 12 yo but quite often they aren't. They are able to use a phone if needed.

Your ex? He won't change.

I'm going to try and answer the questions;
I've no ide, she is never ever normally sick. Which is why I was uncomfortable for her to be home alone.
I am happy for her to be home alone when she is well, before and after school. They can catch the bus from their dads but it's the most unreliable bus service and they worry they will be late for school. She does catch the bus after school on her own.
Why didn't she stay at her dad's? Very good question.

I didn't know the cause of sickness, it never happens and she wasn't herself. I just don't feel comfortable her being home alone, I didn't know how poorly she was.

Thanks for the replies, it's really helpful to have other people's opinions and perspectives 😊