I want to move closer to my family, but my husband wants to stay put.
My partner and I moved in together just before the first covid lockdown - at the time we moved in we were both living far from our families (about 4hrs for me, 2hrs for him). Lots of stuff happened with jobs due to covid which meant we ended up moving in with his parents - this made most sense at the time as he'd been living with them when we met, so for the first 2 years of our relationship we'd spent a lot of time there; plus my parents already had a full house as other siblings had moved in with them; uncertainty of covid meant we didn't want to rent somewhere new. We lived with his parents for about 2 years, by which time we had both got jobs near there, so we bought a house nearby. His family all live within about 30mins of where we now live (parents, sister + husband + 1yr old neice). We currently see his family every 2-3 weeks.
My two sisters live about 2.5hrs north of here. My parents were 4.5hrs away but are now moving to near my sisters - one of my sisters, along with her husband, are expecting a baby and my parents want to be closer to help out.
My husband and I have been trying for a baby and I've recently realised how much I want to live near my family - I've not lived near them since I left for university 14yrs ago, but have realised how much I want to be closer to them now as I think about starting my own family. I'm particularly close with my sister who is expecting, and would love to be able to see her more and for our kids to grow up together. Both of our husband's get on really well too! We would also be able to get a bigger property for the same money, and be closer to mountains (my husband and I are both outdoorsy).
My job is remote so I could stay in the same role if we move. However, my husband would need to find a new job which I appreciate might mean he takes a bit of a pay cut; however, he doesn't love his current job. If it helps, we currently earn very similar salaries. He would also be choosing to live near my family over his, which I appreciate is a very tricky decision. However, in the past his family have talked about moving north and joked that only my husband's job is stopping us all going.
I tried raising the subject but my husband kept making jokes that I was dreaming, and that we could also win the lottery 3 times, get 100 dogs, and buy 10 more houses... silly comments like that. He then said I could spend as much time with my family as I want and could go and stay with them whenever I like. I said that wasn't the point and I want to be nearer them, together as a couple not just visiting alone occasionally. He again said you can go whenever you like for as long as you like, and then joked "as long as you keep paying half the mortgage". He was joking here but I found it frustrating that he didn't take my feelings seriously.
Am I being unreasonable? Any tips for approaching this topic again?