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ThatFlightyTemptress · 16/09/2024 20:55

Lifeomars · 16/09/2024 20:46

They are not going to be left there permanently, they will displayed for a while and then taken down and given to the respective families.

Why on earth would the families want those - to display in their lounge? They are living with the horror every day - do they really need a plaque reminding them that their daughter’s killer didn’t receive anywhere near the justice he deserved?

Lifeomars · 16/09/2024 20:56

TotHappy · 16/09/2024 20:44

I think it's a really good idea. The sight of just those 7 plaques together is really hard hitting. If they were papering our towns and cities? It really gives a strong sense of the scale of the issue. And the dates- it hits home about the life, often young, taken.

Sometimes I go on my local paper's website and count the court cases about offences against women and girls. They are all the usual horror, child sex abuse, rape, stalking, domestic violence, sexual assault, none of them "serious" enough to make the national news and few of them in fact will be covered by the local TV news.I estimate there are about 5 a week. This will be replicated across the country and this is only the ones that get to court I am a survivor of a serious sexual assault by a stranger who attacked me when I was walking home from work and it affected me profoundly. I used to think I would never recover, the fear, the flashbacks, my terror of the dark and a natural distrust of storage men now amplified into complete paranoia. The initial attack merited a paragraph in the local press and the court case did not feature at all. I was glad that it did not get a lot of coverage but I suspect the reason was that it was too "commonplace" too "ordinary" an almost daily event which sadly it is.

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Genevieva · 16/09/2024 21:00

Curtainsformeplease · 16/09/2024 19:45

Wouldn’t be very good for the property value

If it’s your house you can take it down. Ordinary blue plaques are only there with the owner’s consent.

Areolaborealis · 16/09/2024 21:02

Calliopespa · 16/09/2024 20:41

Yes I agree. I find domestic violence repellent and the deaths heartbreaking; but this isn’t tasteful. It’s slightly macabre to adopt a blue plaque, which already has a purpose of committing a life’s achievements to posterity, and immortalise the act of someone else by marking the spot it took place. It’s just all off key.

Its reminding me of the witchery and murder tours in Edinburgh.

ElaineMBenes · 16/09/2024 21:12

poppyzbrite4 · 16/09/2024 19:48

I don't like this idea at all. Imagine that being what you were known for? These women haven't given their permission for this. What about their achievements in life? Everything overshadowed by being murdered.

It is what they are known for though. It overshadows everything, forever.

If you mention my mums name to anyone who knew her then she's instantly referred to as 'the one with the nice smile who was murdered by her partner'.

At least something good might come from a high profile campaign.

Calliopespa · 16/09/2024 21:20

Areolaborealis · 16/09/2024 21:02

Its reminding me of the witchery and murder tours in Edinburgh.

Yes definitely that vibe.

ToBeDetermined · 16/09/2024 21:31

I really do not like the idea. If they put one on every house, and I am sure some houses would have more than one depending on how far back in time this goes, then wouldn’t it send the message that domestic violence is commonplace and end up desensitising the average pedestrian? Also, most pedestrians are school age children…is this really suitable for children to be seeing as they walk to school and back? Nightmares anyone?

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