My son 7 ASD. Was struggling to regulate going into school. He eventually went in but left his bag and ignored the HT to come get it. Found him an hour later crying in the corner of his class completely covered in snot as it was a class visit. A previous group of parents had been in before and he was left crying all through their visit.
When I saw him he needed a tissue for snot so couldn't lift his head. I got him a tissue and took him to get his bag. I asked the teacher why someone didn't just get it and she said HT says he needs to go. If he was regulated that be fine but he was already upset about another issue and wasn't able to comply with their demands.
They have no nurture or sensory rooms and he has no classroom support. He's a sensory seeker too. Only movement breaks is once a week when they teacher takes him to work in her space where she is prepping.
Am I being unreasonable to complain. I get he need to respect her authority but he wasn't even crying about the bag. They never helped him to say what was up.