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To have come home in a rage at DP's latest purchase?

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flossish · 20/04/2008 15:05

He has had some overtime money coming, although not actually being paid till next week. He has been wanting to get a games console, I'd have prefered a Wii, I feel it would be better for all of us and a good giggle. He however wanted the PS3. We've got loads to do with the house (still). I was recently given a similar sum of money, all of which I was planning to sink into doing up our garden.

Dp has put this on his credit card which is something he was no longer supposed to do, he is in huge amounts of debt, but we saw a hoover at a bargain price in the sale yesterday, which we did put on there as it wouldn't still be there when we got paid. He thinks that if its ok to do it then, its ok to do it now.

My other main concern is that I have not been getting paid properly, he has ordered a skip and fencing and is expecting me to pay money back for this, which if once again I do not get properly paid I will not be able to do. He would have had the money available had he not just spent 300 on a playstation. I asked him to wait until next weekend, he said no.

We went to the shop, looked around then we went to a different section - he said they didn't have the right bundle. He then said he 'might' go for a different bundle. After a few minutes he said he was off to buy a car for DS. I didn't twig. Not even when he was gone for 10 minutes. Just kept waiting, only to be called from the other side of the checkout with his new very expensive games console that I didn't agree to him buying. Am I right to be annoyed about him borrowing the money unnecessarily and at the sneaky, and undemocratic way he brought this?

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bigknickersbigknockers · 20/04/2008 15:21

I wouldnt be happy with the sneaky way he bought it, he really should have talke it through with you first.

hecate · 20/04/2008 18:55

YANBU. He was selfish.

calvemjoe · 20/04/2008 19:11

flossish, I feel your rage. I've had a v expensive camera turn up that I knew nothing about, a phone call from Del to arrange the delivery of the laptop that I knew nothing about and many other items. We can't even afford food most months

YANBU

Ayomi · 20/04/2008 19:15

YANBU
I'd go through the ruddy roof.
We are totally skint (and then some) but you make me feel lucky as dp won't spend a fiver without running it past me these days.
Its the sneaking that would really bug me though. Very childish of him

SheWillBeLoved · 20/04/2008 19:18

Sneakily return it to the store. Tll him he can go back and buy it again when he doesn't go behind your back about it.

SheWillBeLoved · 20/04/2008 19:19

I know that totally defies the whole object of not being sneaky etc but showing him that two can play that game will ensure he doesn't go about things that way again!

honeybrown · 20/04/2008 19:21

YANBU!

coppertop · 20/04/2008 19:25

YANBU, especially as the games which he will no doubt soon decides that he needs for it will also be expensive.

He sounds like a small child who keeps doing these things because he knows he's going to get away with it.

WallOfSilence · 20/04/2008 19:27

Take it back tomorrow.

Sell it on Ebay.

I deffo would let him see what a big sneaky pig he has been!!

Is he always like this?

lazybum · 20/04/2008 19:38

boys and their toys

YANBU

Take it back if you can and tell him to get his prioties straight

flossish · 20/04/2008 20:12

He has been much better of late, I thought. I know he is already planning to spend his bonus on a HD TV when our 28 inch works perfectly well. We've not been abroad for 4 yrs and I'm going back to work from mat leave on fri, been earning very little past few months and not had a penny extra from him so I'm quite annoyed. I went out shopping after I posted and came home to an apology, a box of chocolates and a promise that if I really don't like it 'after giving it a chance' we'll take it back or sell it on ebay.

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madmuggle · 21/04/2008 12:48

If it's boxed, return it and kick him in the balls.

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