Are you in a happy relationship?

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Yes or no and how long you been in it?

I'm not and I been in it a year. Not married.

Single for 24 years. Much happier than when married.

Yes, 25 years together, married 18

Yes, very happy, been together 7 years.

A year in should still be the honeymoon phase. Bin him off!

Nearly 40 years in total. Wouldn't be without him.

Yes, been together 25 years. We're happier now than we've ever been. We've had tough spots in the past, but always knew we only wanted each other even when spitting feathers. You have to choose to be in love and work at the relationship when it's tough. Only you know if your relationship is worth the work. If it isn't, don't feel guilty to end it

“…he makes me feel … “
that’s a 🚩, OP

Not really. It's been 8 years. 1 year seeing each other every weekend, 1 year living together, then we moved an hour away from everyone and everything I knew 6 years ago. I don't think we'd still be together if we hadn't moved here tbh. If you're not happy, get out now. Too much can happen that will lock you in later down the line.

What a waste of your time OP. Get out, find someone who makes you truly happy!
I’m twenty years in and I can honesty say he is my absolute favourite man; the best dad and husband. My life is better with him in it. If you’re miserable so early don’t waste any longer.

Very, married for 20yrs. We are so alike in our outlook and attitudes to things like money, household chores, leisure activities etc.
I became disabled during our marriage and he stepped up and I've never heard him complain once. He gets embarrassed when I tell him how wonderful I think he is.

Yes, married 16 years.

Its not the energy is the absolutely no childcare backup. I don't feel isolated I have no friends that could help.

Not really. Been married for 32 years and at first, he was the love of my life but over the years he treated me so bad. I was still in love with him and it took me a long time to see the “real” him. By then it was too late to do anything. I’m living in a rural area with no friends or family close by. To see them it’s a 3 hours drive away. I don’t have money to start again so I have to accept things as they are. I don’t go out, except to do grocery shopping.

Yes in the grand scheme of it all. Been together 13 years married for 10. Are we always happy with each other? No we bicker sometimes, we're nasty and horrible to each other some days and we seem to be turning around from a horrible year which has been very testing for us as a couple with one thing after another and huge stressors flying in at all angles. However would I ever want to be with anyone else? No he's the love of my life and we are still happy we chose each other to go through the crap with even when we're not having happy feelings towards each other at some points. I would hate having a man with no backbone who would always just agree with me to keep the peace, instead he builds me up through making me reflect on who I am and how I deal with things and I do the same with him. We are growing together and will grow old together. Being 'happy together' is not always about feeling happy it's about understanding that even in the unhappy bits you've got each other and you're togetherness is worth fighting for when it's crap.

However, you haven't been together that long and should still be at the very lovey dovey, nice to each other wanting to always hold hands stage. If you are not happy and don't see future with him break up move on and don't let him make you feel bad about it. He will thank you in the long run when he meets who he's meant to be with and so will you.

Yes - 10 years, not married.

Only nine months in but am struck by how every day I feel happier in the relationship. Not that he never annoys or upsets me - he does sometimes, as do I him! - but we have such great communication that issues are easily to resolve and actually result in us feeling closer and happier afterwards.

If you’ve been trying to get out for a while at the 12-month point, the relationship is definitely doomed. I can tell you from experience that pity is not a foundation for a relationship.

Don't stay if you're not happy. Move on and find someone who makes you happy.

Yes very, married nearly 3 yrs, together nearly 7.

3rd DC due next month and I feel like we’re still in the honeymoon phase.

I feel so lucky every day.

If you’re not happy so early on- get out, don’t waste your life.

Yes. 21 years

Yes, 28 years and a few months, married.

Yes. Madly in love.
Been together 2 years and he is my person.

I was with my ex husband for 22 years. We met at 20.

I obviously loved my ex-husband but I didn't know what it felt like to feel supported and safe until now.

I'm obsessed with my partner. For the first time in my entire life I'm scared to lose someone.

Yes. Together 12 years, married for five, two kids. Not once in those 12 years have I ever considered not being with him.

Thank you everyone I needed to hear this

Very. We never argue or bicker. We're just on the same level as each other. Together 10 years.

My 2 exes I couldn't stand after 4 years. Always argued .

Yes. Divorced at 39 after being with him 22 years. We just grew apart and he had been a bit of a tit over the years. Met someone else and now 11 years on, due to be married in 5 weeks. 4 kids between us age 27 25 20 and 17 and he is the love of my life. And I'm sure he feels the same. Road hasn't been easy what with navigating 4 teenagers at some point but we kept the faith and the rocky road has been so worth it. Never settle. We are here such a very short time and you deserve to be happy