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To be so annoyed by a simple exchange about getting a couples rail card?

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PrueHal · 14/09/2024 20:00

I could happily murder someone tonight and yes I am on my period.

Partner and I are planning a trip by rail. Two weeks ago he said 'i noticed there's a family card discount. Why don't I buy one and add you to mine?'. I said yes,that's nice of you.

Now we are planning properly he said actually why don't you get your own so we benefit from it when we're with other people too. So I check the details and.1) you need a child to get one (we don't yet) and 2) there is another travel card for x2 people so I suggest this instead.

He then says 'yeah but it's still not good for solo travel which is how I travel most of the time. But yeah, I can get it for us anyway.' Because he travels for work a lot.

AIBU to just be so annoyed by this entire exchange? We've been together a year and it's to get a card together, not take out a marriage licence quite yet

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Sethera · 14/09/2024 20:06

You mean the 'Two Together' card. There's a small reduction to the discount in the pipeline but it should still save about 1/3 on your fares, so could easily pay for itself in a single long trip - no brainer to get one if the maths add up.

You don't have to be in a 'partnership' to buy one - it can be any two people who are travelling together - so no idea why your OH is being lukewarm about it.

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PrueHal · 14/09/2024 20:06

The whole point was for when we travel together from one part is the UK to another and it was HIM that raised getting the card first.

So why now obsess about when we travel not together, what about when I'm with others, what about when I'm alone..etc? Still no card and nothing sorted.

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bullywee · 14/09/2024 20:07

Very weird. I have one with my dad as we tend to go to the seaside a couple of times a year and it saves us a few quid.

Sethera · 14/09/2024 20:09

Just present him with the numbers. 'Our fares without the card would be £200 each. With the card we'd save £66. The card costs £30 so we are £36 up even if we never travel together again.'

Or do you think there is more to his dicking around - is he trying to weasel out of the trip altogether?

distinctpossibility · 14/09/2024 20:10

I know what he means. There's no benefit to a Two Together card if you've each got your own railcard. And if he's got a railcard on his own, you can either spend the £30 on a Two Together for times when you are together, or you can spend £30 on a solo railcard in your name that you can use whether you're with him or not.

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PrueHal · 14/09/2024 20:10

@bullywee I feel like mentally it messes with me.

He suggests it first then when I say yes he comes up with reasons not to. I've checked and the reduction is decent.

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PrueHal · 14/09/2024 20:12

@distinctpossibility as far as I know there isn't a solo rail card for me or him? We are both early 30s.

All the discounts ended at 30ish!

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Sethera · 14/09/2024 20:14

distinctpossibility · 14/09/2024 20:10

I know what he means. There's no benefit to a Two Together card if you've each got your own railcard. And if he's got a railcard on his own, you can either spend the £30 on a Two Together for times when you are together, or you can spend £30 on a solo railcard in your name that you can use whether you're with him or not.

To be eligible for a solo railcard you have to be over 60 or under 30, or if you have DC in tow (don't have to be your own DC) you can get a family railcard.

Otherwise unless you qualify for a disabled traveller's or Forces card, the Two Together is the only one you can get.

TickingAlongNicely · 14/09/2024 20:14

Theres railcards for the young, the old, families and couples (and for Forces) but not for a normal solo adult!

Overcover · 14/09/2024 20:15

I have a Two Together card for me and DH and another for me and the mate I go to watch football with. It's just for people who travel together regularly, it's not a declaration of commitment.

Unless you fall into one of the special age groups, there isn't an equivalent to use on your own. If you do both fall into one of them, you'd be better off getting that.

Sethera · 14/09/2024 20:16

TickingAlongNicely · 14/09/2024 20:14

Theres railcards for the young, the old, families and couples (and for Forces) but not for a normal solo adult!

Yes, annoying, isn't it?

SapphireOpal · 14/09/2024 20:16

Are you taking his kids on this trip? If not you can't use the family railcard anyway.

It should not be this difficult OP. His communication sounds terrible.

fizzymizzy · 14/09/2024 20:16

I'm not sure what has annoyed you, he thought of getting solo cards because you don't always travel together and when you checked the info and realised there isn't one, he agreed to get the 2 together

LetsGoFlyAKiteee · 14/09/2024 20:17

There's network railcard but depends where in the country you are..

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PrueHal · 14/09/2024 20:17

@SapphireOpal no, neither of us have kids yet.

Agree, he's being difficult. Just order the card and get it sorted!

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Evilartsgrad · 14/09/2024 23:08

Sethera · 14/09/2024 20:14

To be eligible for a solo railcard you have to be over 60 or under 30, or if you have DC in tow (don't have to be your own DC) you can get a family railcard.

Otherwise unless you qualify for a disabled traveller's or Forces card, the Two Together is the only one you can get.

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Some individual networks offer off peak further reductions with a network card with no age or family qualification.

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