I feel awful

[Hernamewaslola22]

Hate the weekends. Even lonelier than the week. Have to force myself to do things so I don't end up alone in the house from 4pm Fri to 8am Monday. Everyone else having happy family weekends or in couples out doing nice things. I don't know why I didn't get the same. Feel so sad tonight.

I'm so sorry you feel this way 😔

I assume you live alone? It can be really difficult when everyone else seems to be in a couple/group.

Are there any groups/classes locally you could join? That way, you can go alone but would be with other people.

Do you have any family/friends nearby? Even if they seem busy, could you reach out to them?

I'm sorry. I hope things change for you soon

That's really rubbish. I'm sad to read this.

I live alone, not able to work due to disabilities, I can go weeks without leaving the house or seeing anybody. I'm not inviting people to a pity party! Just saying.

So, I hear you.

Everyone will suggest a new hobby, the gym, a book club and they are all great. BUT...you've got to have a boot up your arse to try these things. I was on here recently asking for an arse kick to leave the house. And I did. And it was helpful.

You don't have to be party central. But just have a go at being 'outside'.

I try to have a bit of a structure or plan for weekends - I will factor in going out for coffee or breakfast with a book, I like antiques n collectables so might go to a car boot or local antiques centre
I sometimes do my main food shop on a weekend and will also include household tasks that I don’t get time for during the week eg Sunday is change bedding day
Joined a local gym that has pool, sauna, steam rooms and hot spa so usually go there if I’m bored
I’m also carer for elderly DM so usually take her out or visit or shop with her

Are you completely alone in life? It's tough when you have to spend so much time alone because there's no one else you can be with.

One thing I enjoy on the weekend is walks with my local ladies waking group. Someone just set the group up after asking on a local FB group if any ladies fancied walking. We walk 3 x a week and also do other social stuff. Many of the ladies live alone and it’s great for them (and me, just me and my teen DD).

I’m sorry you’re feeling this way. You’re not the only one and not everyone is with other people or having time of their lives!

Try and plan your weekends ahead.

Get yourself nice food in advance for a treat breakfast. Salmon and cream cheese bagels, croissants. Whatever you like.

Get yourself outside. This is so so important. Whether that’s for a walk to a local park or a trip to a garden centre to pick out a new pot plant.

Do some nice thing to show yourself some self love. Go for a massage, a swim, do a face and hair mask and have a nice bath or paint your nails. Again, anything that specifically you like.

Make plans for your evening to at include a yummy meal and a nice boxset, film or reading a book or even a trip to the cinema or local theatre.

If you would like to mix with people more take a look at your local Facebook community pages for info on what’s going on at the weekend or groups you can join. There’s so much out there from walking groups to pottery classes!

I know it must feel really shit and lonely as fuck op. And that's awful to feel. But please don't waste time comparing your life to what you perceive as happy families etc because honestly, having kids and partners etc doesn't always make for happy fun weekends, it's often stressful, and relentless 😂 getting up very early, no lie in, dealing with kids isn't all enjoyable. I often wish for a weekend alone but I totally get if I had that every weekend I'd not enjoy it.

Aww I know how you feel. To me the weekend feels like merely a brief respite from working. I spend all week waiting for the weekend, Friday comes and I get all giddy, like hell yeah it's POETS Day! Then the weekend comes, whizzes by and before I know it, Monday is back. Sometimes with a bang if something at work has broken. Monday is just a day like any other day, but it feels so sucky. I understand how you feel.

Tonight I honestly feel like I don't want to be here anymore. I feel like my life has no purpose and there's really no point in me being around.

That is so lovely.

Your life is precious, Hernamewaslola22.

Being lonely can put you in a bad place. Don't allow those nasty thoughts to overtake you.

There's a new mumsnet book club

www.mumsnet.com/talk/what_were_reading/5146891-anybody-want-to-create-a-book-club

I've just asked to join. Maybe you'd like to?

I don't know if mumsnetters still meet up, but you could check it out.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/meetups

Are there any podcasts you like to listen to? Someone might have some good recommendations for you.

Do you like animals? Is there a local rescue that need volunteers?

Have a hot drink and try and get some sleep

How are you feeling this morning? Do you have any family or friends or are you by yourself? I have felt like this many times to, loneliness is soul destroying . I’ve joined a facebook group that does meet ups ( it’s for solo travellers but they do uk meets to)
and there’s also an event section on facebook you could look at. Also the meet up app. I think if you found something to do at the weekend even just start off small it would help you feel sooo much better.
also another idea is adult education courses, some are free and I go just for the company ! Lastly feel free to PM me if you fancy a chat any time x

How are you feeling this morning OP? If you’re feeling up to it you should resolve to go out and do something today. The air particles actually are different at the seaside and the forest, it makes us feel better and lowers cortisol I think. Anyway maybe you should make yourself go somewhere like that. Even if you don’t want to.
I never want to do anything, I just want to sit on the sofa. I made myself go to a 40th last night, and had a conversation about how literally everyone didn’t want to go either - but we ended up having the best time! And I wouldn’t have met these people in the first place if I’d not forced myself to go to the place I met them initially a couple of years ago. Everyone is just faking it til they make it.

Sorry you feel like this.

Previous posters have made some great suggestions, but I hear that you are feeling lonely and sometimes that makes it hard to get that thought out of our minds.

In the past I have volunteered and found this helps to keep my mind busy and gets me out of the house. Do you enjoy gardening? I find just visiting a garden centre quite relaxing when I don't have much to do.

Could you join an exercise class or take part in a hobby and meet new friends through that?

Do you have any family that you can arrange to visit once in a while? If you are able to plan some things in advance then it would give you something to look forward to.

You always have us on here to talk to and I find there is always someone who reaches out when I have needed a helping hand. I hope you feel that you too. We are here if you need to chat

Thinking of you this morning OP.
I know what it's like, to be lonely.
Putting my arms round you. X

Thanks everyone. Don't feel much better today but forced myself out for a long walk to get some fresh air.

OP it’s awful to feel lonely .

i felt like this back in 2012 but I thought about what I could do to change my life and took steps in that direction and by 2014 my life was much better - almost unrecognisable

What did you do?

When I’m lonely with nothing planned, sometimes I just fill a bag of stuff for the charity shop and walk there and drop it off. The small act of getting rid of a bit of clutter/old clothes/books etc, the walking there in the fresh air and the little bit of human interaction are all positive and make you feel like you’ve achieved something useful in your day. It sounds silly I know but sometimes you just need one thing.

In 2013 o made a decision to leave work and go on a course of study. I also lost a lot of weight and go back to a size 8 -10.

i watched TV series I’d wanted to watch for years - this alone gave me confidence in identifying with the characters ! - met some great new people through my course and had the confidence to reach out to old friends via Facebook and build up a new account.

These FB connections changed my life and led to real life relationships

Its essentially getting in touch with old friends male and female via FB that changed my life

Look at hobbies and clubs during the weekend so your time is full. You could try volunteering to meet new people, or maybe go to church if you are religious.

You have to make yourself do things. Yesterday I went to an art exhibition I was interested in seeing and then sat on the beach with a book. It makes no difference to anyone if I saw that exhibition or not, but I know myself well enough to know I'd regret not having made the effort. And getting fresh air is always good. Maybe it would be better to have gone with someone else, but while I have friends I got to exhibitions with, most are away or otherwise busy this weekend. You have to put yourself first, because no one else will.

I’m so sorry you feel this way OP.

Can you tell us a bit about yourself? Your background, how you ended up in your current situation, what your likes and dislikes are?