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Givemeasofthandledbroom · 20/04/2008 11:18

To expect my SIL (husbands sister) to mention to me that there was another Godmother to her baby son(besides me) BEFORE the actual Christening.

Or in fact at all.

I only found out AFTER the christening when I over heard my husband asking one of the Godfathers if 'the other' person was a Godmother. He had noticed her reading the 'godmother' bits at the font and had suddenly realised she wasn't confused and reading the wrong bits but actually was another Godmother.

The Godfather's new about the other Godmother and the other Godmother knew I was a Godmother.

After the christening, at the reception I asked my SIL and her husband why they hadn't mentioned it and they just said 'Oh I am sure that we did, didn't we?' and then pretended to be busy/preoccupied feeding the baby!

The thing is my SIL doesn't forget ANYTHING and I know for a fact she would have mentioned it if she had wanted to, she is that sort of person.

I think it's really rude and quite disrespectful or am I just being over sensitive?

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juuule · 20/04/2008 11:24

Why would she do that? Are there existing problems between you both?
Are you sure she didn't mention anything?
Maybe she thought she had. Arranging the christening and sorting things out it might not have been her top priority and she might have thought she'd already told you as she had told the other couple. How old is the baby? If not very old then it's quite easy, especially if sleep-deprived, to become a little forgetful over things even when previously you were very thoughtful/organised etc.
When you say she was pretending to be busy with the baby, maybe she was embarrassed.
Try to think the best and that she had other things on her mind.

3andnomore · 20/04/2008 11:25

does it really matter? Why?

bubblagirl · 20/04/2008 11:26

not sure really what the problem is or why it upsets you so much i know many children with 2 god parents

is it because all along you felt more special being the only god mother it doesnt make you less special

it just means child has 2 god mothers shouldnt make any difference they chose you for a reason

saltire · 20/04/2008 11:27

Did you not notice though? Any time I have been a Godmother, all the Goparents stand at the front with the parents.
Mind you that has been Chruch of scotland so maybe they do things differently.
maybe she did think she had told you, like Juule says, there is a lot to organise as wellas looking after a tiny baby

bubblagirl · 20/04/2008 11:28

maybe they thought it out and thought it would be best to even it out if 2 god fathers

she may have thought she told you and probably didnt want to discuss it at party as she could clearly see you were upset about this i think you have taken it personal when all that matters is she chose you for a reason and that should be it

yurt1 · 20/04/2008 11:35

You're being over-sensitive.

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Givemeasofthandledbroom · 20/04/2008 12:00

It's not the 2 godmother thing at all it's the fact that she didn't tell me.
And no, you definitely have to know this person - she is not a sleep deprived new Mother who forgot!
And nor was I clearly upset - I actually made light of it and approached it in a very 'Oh I can't believe that you didn't tell me ... bla bla bla, so it wasn't a scene of hysterical Godmotherness!

Though I actually took the baby off the other godmother for the photos after the christening - I had no idea why she was muscling in on the godparent shots!!!!! OMG!
Obviously I did apologise to her when I realised what I had done! It was kind of amuzing! We laughed!

Anyway, it looks like I am being over sensitive!

Thanks for the sanity check!

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