Gifts for grandchildren

[nannygranny4]

Back in May I had a win on the Irish lottery and told my 2 grandchildren 11 and 12 that I would treat them both.
My granddaughter had two gifts in May and grandson had one but asked if I would buy him a game that is coming out in September as his other gift. I have spent around the same amount on both of them.
Now my daughter is asking for another gift for my granddaughter as grandson is having his gift now.
AIBU to not buy another gift for granddaughter?

Why does your dd think your GC deserves a 3rd gift?

I assume if you explain to your daughter that they both get two gifts each - but the timing is different - so you’re being fair to both, she will be able to
understand that.
She will have to deal with her daughter herself and explain that her and her brother have both been treated the same.

Ridiculous from your daughter !! Just remind her that it was two each and that she needs to explain this.

Remind your daughter that you said you would treat them and that you've spent the same amount (or thereabouts) on them both - DGD chose both her gifts in May, but DGS only chose one gift in May and opted to wait for the second because it wasn't available yet. He is now getting his second gift. This is not unreasonable and tbh, you didn't have to get either of them anything!

I assume you are talking about FC25 so not something cheap.

My children are 11 and 12, I would be explaining that she had her gifts already so she can like it or lump it! At that age they are old enough to understand.

In your shoes, I would offer to gift my daughter some maths lessons......

Congratulations on your win!

How cheeky is your daughter.

Very greedy of your dd, if you buy your dgd a 3rd gift then you'll have to buy dgs another one to even it out. Remind your entitled dd that Christmas is not far away so they'll both get gifts then anyway.

Lock your savings away in a long term deposit account before your dd spends it all.

Surely you just explain the granddaughter has already had her two gifts and that’s the end of it?

If you already spent same amount on both of them I don't think there's need to buy more gifts.

I would write a card to your dgd saying how you enjoyed buying her gifts in May and hope they gave her pleasure.
Then detail the cost of the gifts and if she's a €1 or 2 under pop that in an envelope with the card.
If she's over point it out.
Most dc just want fairness.
Your dd is stirring.

The children seem to understand that they've had 2 gifts each, maybe get them to explain to your daughter!

Children can be acquisitive little creatures but also they can forget what happened a few months ago. Just say 'Sorry love, remember you have already had two presents and this is your brother's second one.' But if you want to smooth over upset feelings, you might give them both together one final small treat like pizza and ice cream in their favourite restaurant. Maybe you should take your daughter along if she is upset too!

You really should have kept that money for yourself to go towards your pension pot, you shouldnt have given the grandkids any of your money as they clearly dont appreciate it.

YANBU.

YANBU. Remind your daughter that they've had equal amounts spent on them, DGS just had to wait for his. They're more than old enough to understand that.

Your daughter is a CF for ASKING for any gifts for her kids at all!!

Just tell your daughter that your grandson asked for an IOU for his second gift in May, and you are now honouring that, where as your granddaughter took both at the time.