As a bit of background which will hopefully make sense afterwards I have recently started to really dislike my job (been in it 10years and feeling stale), I've had a couple of job interviews which were unsuccessful and I'm currently thinking about next steps.
I have had the last two weeks off work during which me and my husband went on holiday for a week (our first abroad, hot holiday in 6 years and my first in 12 so very much needed!) we have two kids and so stress was building a bit due to me doing a lot around the house and working full time but we came back relaxed and happy and i was even relaxed in terms of work (knowing that I still want to move on but not stressed)
It was my first day back today so I was busy but expected it. My husband had the day off but planned to clean out the eldests cupboards and get new storage etc and then do other bits around the house. At 10am he came in to me working and asked if a tshirt still fitted our son, this happened a few times and I said I couldn't commit the time as i was catching up after holiday. He then said 'we will have to book a weekend to do it at the end of the year' despite making his room unusable after removing all clothes storage.
He is out all day tomorrow so I know that I now have to sort out his mess to make it a nice space for my son.
He promised to put the washing up to dry first thing today so I didn't do it last night..... I finally managed a work break at 2pm and he was asleep on the sofa (2 hour nap) and the washing was not done so I had to do this. I then had to clean the kitchen and he walked in and said he was going to do it.... Then wandered off and had a shower instead so I had to do thay and other housework all before we headed out at 7pm despite finishing work at 5pm.
To note, I had a day off whilst he wokred before we left and spent it packing for both of us and also both children's stays at grandparents. Cleaned the house, ironed uniforms etc to make grandparents time easier whilst we were gone etc.
I was annoyed and showed this and now he is saying that I can quit work for a year to retrain and get a better job.... A lovely gesture but completely missing the point as it isn't just a work issue. Am I being ungrateful?! I would like to but realistically if he did more around the house I could balance a job too.... Right now It feels like I have 3 children?!
Genuinely feel further apart from him after a week away 😢