When I was pregnant with my DS, my sil was also pregnant and further along. She didn’t find out what she was having as in a girl or a boy but we went private at 16 weeks and found out i was having a boy. We named him as soon as we knew he was a boy. When we announced the name she was upset because it was one of the names she was considering. I didn’t know this at the time and she had a list of 10 names including our name, we had 1 name that we had picked and had picked from before I even got pregnant so I felt she was being unreasonable.
Before this there was also an issue with a name (a girls name) again she didn’t know what she was having but came in and announced after her 20 week scan (while I was miscarrying my first pregnancy) that they’ve the name picked if it’s a girl which is literally the only girls name I’ve ever liked. Have messages to my husband, (then boyfriend) to prove it so I loved the name long before I ever heard her say it. She had a boy anyway so it was null and void.
problem is….i am now pregnant with a girl. Would I be unreasonable to use the name I love when I know she would probably call her daughter it if she has anymore babies?