AIBU -Different parenting styles

[PaigeBML]

AIBU.. my and my partner have a son who is 7 years old and we have very different parenting styles.

i have noticed when he telling our son off for he does by calling him names i.e you idiot or saying don’t be a baby. I don’t like it, and have noticed it happening more and more often lately.

Previous he would never discipline/tell our son off and just let him stay up late, play on consoles all day basically the same as what he does all day or night when he is not working. He would also tell our son ignore me and undermine me.

today, our son accidentally dropped food on the floor and when he went to pick it up more food fell of his plate by accident and my partner called him an idiot, which understandably upset our son and I told my partner it’s not nice for him to call him names and he needs to stop he responded by calling me a snowflake.

i have said several times now he needs to stop calling him names like as it upsets him but he doesn’t seem to care .. Am I being unreasonable by telling him not to do ? He just in turn calls me an idiot and a baby also!

That's not a different parenting style because it doesn't sound like he does any parenting. It's horrible.

Your son is being verbally and emotionally abused. I wouldn't live with someone who was doing what he is. It's counterproductive and your son will end up with self esteem issues. Expect an angry young man in the future.

A child accidentally knocking food over is not an idiot. I wouldn’t stand for someone calling either myself or my child an idiot.

Not sure calling you both names can be classed as a parenting style…

I’m sorry he’s doing that to you. You need to protect your son OP.

I'll add too by calling you names in front of him, it's teaching him they disrespecting women is okay. I wouldn't stay with someone like that if they weren't willing to change.

It’s not a parenting style, it’s bullying through the use of demeaning language to both you and your son. He needs to stop. It’s damaging and abusive.

It's emotional and verbal abuse and he does it to you too when you ask him to stop.

That's not acceptable behaviour. You need to make sure your son is protected from emotional damage. If you are going to have children with the wrong sort of men the onus falls on you to protect them. I would never live with someone like that. It's not going for your son's well being.

That's not different parenting styles, he's bullying your son in his own home.

He is abusive to you and your child and you should leave him

He's a thoroughly nasty individual and I am struggling to understand why you can't see this yourself. He's also a nasty bully. Your son will grow up damaged if you stay with this man.