To wonder why people pander to attention seekers?

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A woman at my work that joined about 6 months ago is the biggest attention seeker I've ever come across in my life.

Always dramas, always 'ditsy' moments, and always doing things to attract attention. Her main focus for attention is the men but I've known other attention seekers in the past that have wanted attention from both sexes.

Today, for example, after telling the whole office loudly about her Botox, she started shrieking that she'd 'lost a contact lense'. Cue half hour of men crawling around on the floor looking for it only for her to start giggling and saying how silly she is as it's still in her eye.

Everything is pandered to. Why do people pander to attention seekers so much?

Attention needs? Ffs 😂
I missed the leaflet through the door on this new terminology

I'd go. Ok yeah. How bad is that?
And ignore

Some people do generally find it amusing in small doses, a bit of light relief from the boredom of work. Others are trying to be helpful/polite and just want her to find the bloody thing so she'll get back to work. Or some might think she's flirting.
There was one guy at my work so desperate to impress my mate ( she was not an attention seeker by any means) but very popular with men. She dropped her phone in the filthy canal and this bloke jumped in to get it. A ten quid dumb phone. Which of course didn't work when he retrieved it. He sat there soaked and reeking of rat piss. Thinking 'yeah, I'm getting some tonight'.
But 'the only thing he got was probably weils disease. Lol

Attention seeking has a bad reputation but I've found in real life people aren't put off by it, and in fact enjoy it up to a point. I think people enjoy the drama and like being around dramatic people, especially if they are attractive and/or fun. They enjoy fussing over them.

All the attention-seekers I know had far too much indulgence and attention from their parents growing up- it’s their normal and they need it to function.

Attention needs? If a job requires you to pander to attention seeking fuckwits then I'd like to find out up front.
Sadly, the moment you don't join in and pander, in my experience they complain about you not being helpful and being mean to them.

In the example op gave ' bees just carried on working whilst everyone else looked for my contact lenses. She is horrible to me, and I don't know why, would you say something for me?' And so it begins. Instead of boss saying ' wtf are you talking about, wear glasses if you can't manage lenses. I don't pay everyone to fuck about all day and listen to this bollocks' I'd be warned about being mean to ditsy and how she has attention needs.

I agree with this. You will only get away with consistent attention seeking if you are likeable, entertaining and being attractive helps too. It makes it easy for people to engage with you (but they have to basically want to engage with you).

This is why we are less tolerant of it in our own gender, because the element of attraction isn't there for us, and in fact attention we enjoy may be drawn away from us by the person creating drama.

Today, for example, after telling the whole office loudly about her Botox, she started shrieking that she'd 'lost a contact lense'. Cue half hour of men crawling around on the floor looking for it only for her to start giggling and saying how silly she is as it's still in her eye.

She sounds like a man HATER to me. I love it

You would LOVE Colin Robinson

You don’t like her OP and I agree she sounds annoying. But it doesn’t make her flawed in some way. It’s unfortunate she’s a colleague as otherwise you could just distance yourself.

“Attention needs” 🤨

If someone “needs” attention and cannot moderate their behaviour then they can go see a therapist. I am not a psychologist and it’s not my job to deal with this kind of behaviour in the workplace. Pandering just makes it worse.