I miss being young.

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I really really really miss having the energy to go on a night out, talk to people, phone my mates the next day and have a gossip. Anyone else ?

Blimey op you sound like you should be in a care home.
I'm 59 and not feeling that at all,even though I e been through the teen years and the problems with kids don't end there!

Mum and dad are in their mid 80s and go dancing and socialising a couple of times a week as well as going away in their motorhome a couple of times a month to meet up with other motorhomers!

Stay young op by being curious.keep up to date with trend. Exercise, especially for fundamental strength and most of all make time for fun and silliness in your day!

You can still dance if you want to! I plan to do exactly that all afternoon and evening tomorrow at Before Midnight, and nobody will be judging anybody 🥳

My back will hurt on Saturday though 🤣

I think when you are that age, you have no idea of the grief and pain just living will bring you. I was listening to a song the other day and the lyrics were, "take my heart, don't break it", and I thought, "how stupid and bloody naive." I think as we get older we realise its not that easy to avoid having your heart broken and its rarely one person that does it, but a series of events and the mundanity that is being an adult. We want to be "happy" but often the best life can offer us is "only a little bit sad". But while you may not have their enthusiasm, you will have a quiet appreciation for the little things, rather than longing for the highs. And a force field of cynicism!

I miss the spontaneity. Finishing work and saying “Shall we go for a quick drink?”, then come rolling in 7 hours later. Not having to make plans to meet up with friends because there was always someone you knew down the pub.

Now it’s a military operation involving booking babysitting weeks in advance then having to be up early the next day to take the kids to football matches or birthday parties.

34 with two young kids and I feel you. Life was so much fun in my teens and 20s. Life felt like free and that anything was possible

Me too. I also miss being young, energetic, carefree.

Thanks for the recommendation, but I'm in the South Central. Bummer.

What's your secret?

Those of you that have young children, this time will pass. Soon they will be in their late teens or like mine mid to late 20s and you can still go gigging clubbing, raving and even with them! I enjoy their company more than ever !
The best thing about being in my late 50s ( and nearly 60s like Dh ) is that ( hopefully) you'll have more time and money to pick up what you used to loved.
In our case it's gigs spontaneous ( as far as work rotas allow) trips away,meeting up with friends and having no idea what's in store that evening maybe a tapas bar, maybe an acoustic band session somewhere, maybe a meal out, who cares! It's all fun.

I love a pub band. Open mic nights....anything. Hiking for miles. Last min breaks. Much easier when you don't have to organise babysitters though.

I do too... but I'm told it peaks and troughs. I'm 37 and I feel very old. Been yearning for my 20s physically recently. Tho not emotionally, I was a mess then! But my joints didn't hurt and I wasn't tired all the time..
My friend is 50 and she says she felt the same at 37 but things picked up again for a while in her 40s.
I hope that's true and she's not just trying to make me feel better!
I do have a 6mo baby and two older primary aged kids as well..so it's possibly that that's making me feel tired!!

I actually was thinking the other day that I wish I knew how much energy was in me when I was younger. I can’t believe how tiring life is in my 30s, the amount I have to do and wonder if I actually did this much in my 20s where would I be. I don’t miss my 20s as I was always in some mental health battle, I lacked direction, neglected myself, later dealt with trauma in the family etc so most of my 20s were ruined. I prefer being more tired in my 30s but knowing where I am heading (roughly).

I recommend finding friends of different ages! I'm mid 30s and have good friends from mid 20s to mid 40s, plus my knitting group with older women. Hearing different perspectives has made a huge positive difference to my life when I feel like you are now, which I do but try not to dwell.
And those posting about extreme tiredness in their 30s/40s, if you're getting a normal amount of sleep it's worth pushing your GP for blood tests. Vitamin D or iron tablets etc can make a huge difference if you have a deficiency.

Myself and my friends are all early 40's. We still enjoy a night out the same way as we always have- usually once a month every ) weeks. We also go on weekends away 2-3 times a year. Off to Ibiza soon. Most of us have dc.

I loved those times and I do miss the freedom. Last year I had a day to myself, met friends for drinks and then just ended up at a party with other friends. The day just went from one fun thing to another without any planning. I felt amazing for days afterwards. It made me feel like I was back in my pre-kids era
However I am more than content with my life at home too. I feel very lucky to have a great kids, great husband (a bit grumpy but he's a good guy).
You can still have fun times but over the last year I've definitely appreciated my home too.

Oh, not having children and not working a nine to five job, I think.

I've felt a bit like this recently. I'm just so busy with work /kids and life and feel a bit ground down.
I feel better having read this thread as although I yearn for my misspent youth it is a good reminder that I was often pretty miserable in my 20s and had a really hard time with work, relationships and it was lonely.
Really happy to hear that those out the other side of child-rearing are doing lovely things so perhaps the good times are to come.

Yeah life was a bit grim in my 20s too tbf. I just feel so tied down lol

Not at all.
The whole process of trying to figure things out, the uncertainty about what the future would hold, the pressure not to do anything that would fuck up that future, the pressure to look and behave a certain way, having no money, living with parents.

Now - in my late-30s - I know who I am and where I'm heading, I have self-confidence, I have a wonderful life with wonderful people around me, I give zero shits what other people think, I have money, I have freedom.

Nope. Wouldn't go back for a million quid.

I miss being pretty. I don't like looking in the mirror nowadays. The other stuff though? No. I'm definitely happier now even with the stress of young kids and aging parents.

I don't miss being young. Childhood was OK but teenage / young adult traumatic . Life was good in my 50s as I went to uni.
Obviously had all the usual troubles along the way but now, despite having hardly any money ,my friends all much younger and they are still working so don't see them much and little contact with family ,I am so happy.
In contrast to my younger years ,I live for the day,am interested in everything and everyone and couldn't give a tiny rats arse about how I look . I'm 70 .its fab! I admit that past trauma has left its mark but I refuse to let it get to me . As far as I know we only get one life ( if I find out differently from the other side,I will be sure to post on here and let you know) and I'm sure we deserve every bit of happiness we can squeeze out of this troubled world. I wish I had known this when I used to agonise over my looks,what people thought of me or if I had offended someone .

Youth is indeed totally and utterly wasted on the young.

You should be given 1 week of youth a year - a little holiday in your own past body and life - with which to really enjoy the freedom and power of youth.

But also keep this in mind!!

Honestly I don't relate to this. I'm 37 with a toddler and work full time and while I can't handle hangovers, and life is busier I don't feel like I'm about to die of exhaustion or get obsessed about mourning my youth.

Don't get me wrong, life isn't all sunshine and rainbows and I absolutely have periods of feeling overwhelmed and tired. But this may not be popular but I firmly believe a lot of it is mindset. If you constantly tell yourself life is exhausting, relentless, there's no joy and you feel old then of course you're going to feel like that. But you're still in your 30s OP, there's a lot of life left to be feeling like it's a just a depressing slog left.

I like to think of life as a series of stages that joy can be found in each. Yes I'm maybe not as carefree and as energetic as my 20s but I wouldn't have wanted to stay in my 20s forever as part of the joy of getting older is gaining more experiences and confidence. I feel I'm at a stage now where because time is so precious that I make the absolute most of it. So I don't spend my weekends clubbing and dying of a hangover on the sofa but I'm out now a lot more during the day with family and friends. I ensure that I priotise seeing friends and doing something for myself at least once a week and still do things like gigs and nights out occasionally.

I am happy as i am but at the same time i miss being young too .
I miss my wild nightclubbing and carefree life, i was attractive then and got lots of attention, i loved buying clothes and makeup and getting done up ready to dance the night away.
But looking back one big thing i miss is the energy and strength i had then that i just don't have anywhere near as much of now.
Even in the wildest of times of my youth i am aware of how much simpler life was then and i miss everything about that .
I would give anything to go back for 1 more perfect night of my youth but still wouldn't swap it for how life is for the youth of today.