To not want my dp to stay out to watch the boxing?

[Bezi]

My dp who has a history of not coming in after nights out. has asked me via text if he can stay out to watch the boxing which aparently is on a 3am, I said aslong as he comes home straight after he can also via text, but now I'm resenting this because he has put me through so much s*t recently because he dosnt come home from nights out, that I dont see why I should be nice to him and let him stay out.

how old is he????? FFS - can't he watch it at HOME, im assuming he has children?? I guess you will be getting up and looking after them tomorrow whilst he is having a lie in for you.

Ive never really got the whole staying out all night psyche - perhaps im a bit of a fuddy duddy

Providing the opportunities are equal, there isn't a problem.

What would he say if you stayed out all night? If he's OK with that, then take advantage and do your own thing on a one for one basis.

Its now 7am and he still not in, he rang at 2am to say he will be in by 4.30am, hes not even answering his phone!!! so pissed off got to get up to ds now who has just turned 1.

"let him stay out"?

How would people feel if the OP was saying "I want to stay out late with my friends and my dp won't let me?"..........?

I agree with desiderata - provided the opportunities are equal, I wouldn't have a problem with this.

bezi, those boxing events often don't come on when you think they will. have tried to stay up myself for a couple, pre dc. he's probably fallen asleep where ever he is so that's why he isn't answering. I know you say he has a history but i think i'd leave him and get on with my day tbh and then once he's home and feels like crap i'd give him my fall, frank, honest opinion of how i feel. He needs to know that with a child around it's not on to just stay out all the time. I'm not saying ever btw everyone needs to do their own thing but it should be ok by everyone, not just the person staying out IYSWIM.

well he arrived home at 10am whilst I was at park, we had a huge row now he's gone off for a drive which is probably best. I wouldnt have so much of a problem if it was a one off but it happens every time he goes out, the last time he did this I told him I wasnt going to put up with it anymore and if it happened again he would be out the door. So now I feel Ive got to stick to that because he obviously dosnt care what I say.