To cut contact with my mother?

[Avsijemaj]

I'm really struggling with my mother at the moment, she's mid 60's. Father is slightly younger. The pair of them are desperate to be old and in disrepair. Father has a condition which fluctuates but they are obsessed with it progressing and getting worse. She's mentioned getting adaptations in the home when they're not needed but she insists they are. I have said to her that they need to keep off Google and just live their lives but I've been called a narcissist. I'm fed up, I do my best to help but this is the attitude. I can understand why my siblings are no contact. Would I be unreasonable to do the same thing? I don't want her and my son's relationship to be at risk but equally I don't want his head being messed with either. 😢

I'm not sure what the drama is about OP. Your mum wants to make changes around the home, and your dad has a fluctuating illness and you want to go no contact.

Are you a very sensitive person or is there more going on?

Growing up with a parent who announced they had cancer every other week after googling symptoms is enough to scar you for a life time. They Google everything. No word of a lie. Doctor will tell them one thing, they Google it and come up with something entirely different and stick with it.

It's like they crave for something to be wrong with them? It was the same growing up, if I had a sickness bug it would be immediately "call an ambulance this isnt right".

I could understand if either of them had been misdiagnosed or something but nothing like that has ever happened.

But if you bring it up they call me out for it. I'm at a loss.

Sometimes smiling and nodding is the best antidote. Don't get involved. Keep your visits short and talk about the weather, the traffic, the garden.

If they talk about Illnesses then say, 'sorry to hear that.' and change the subject. If they won't change the subject, then leave.

It's pretty clear they have health anxiety.

Frustrating, but a weird reason to ditch your parents.