by expecting my nanny to bring me a present at every visit?

[margosbeenplayingwithmynoonoo]

She visits every week.

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My dd1(3.5 yo) waits at the door and asks my MIL what she has got for her.

I wish my MIL would realise that she doesn't need to spend any money on my daughters. She gets a lot of joy out of it but what happens if my dds end up acting "spoilt" around her.

DD1 also told when MIL was leaving that she wants a "baby born" (she's seen it on the adverts today.) MIL says "what's that then?"

I've a feeling she may turn up with one of these dolls on a future visit.

Nah, it's a grandparent's prerogative to buy loads of unsuitable gifts, isn't it?

(v confusing thread title btw)

My mum says to my kids when they're being particularly 'grabby': 'nothing, what have you got for me then...?'

soon shuts em up

you need to have a quiet word with the MIL and ask her to put the cash into a savings account instead...

LOL -Umlellala - I can see why now!

i'd have a word if not you gonna end up with a spoilt brat

I tell my DS it's rude to ask for things like that and he gets nothing... if my mum has a gift that he's said "what did you get me?" she won't give it to him. He soon learnt that people give when they want to - "I want doesn't get" and all that.

Perhaps MIL could save the money into an account? Or give them weekly pocket money (£1) instead (cheaper then but she's still contributing?)

I've tried broaching the subject with MIL and talking to DD as well.

She even buys the dog a huge bag of doggy treats every week. She says that the dog makes her feel guilty if she forgets.

I was at work when MIL came to visit today and my DH mentioned it to me and he thinks the situation is getting bad as well.

She lives in Spain normally and misses her grandaughters terribly - she's going back in 2 weeks time.

you prob need to explain to your dds that they won't always 'get' something - and it's rude to ask (even if they know they are likely to!). Maybe you could hint that granny could get some token gifts rather than massive expensive things too... (but grannies should like 'spoiling' children )

x post - ohhh, def let her 'spoil' if she hardly sees them!

Ah but she's been here since November! (long story)

My MIL phoned today and asked my DH where she could get a baby born.

I spoke to her and said that DDs still love her whether or not she buys them presents and I also said that she can't really afford to buy things for them.

She's sad because she's just about to leave.