To report domestic abuse

[Wanttohelpbuthow]

A new mum at my child’s nursery has confided in me & a few other mums that her husband is abusive - verbally, physically & financially. Some of the stories she’s told me are chilling and this is ongoing.
I barely know this lady but I’m concerned for her children (aged 6, 2 & a baby)
im also worried if I report this, it’ll make it worse if police show up at their house.
im torn on what to do but am so concerned about those small children

With children at home it is a safe guarding issue and should be reported op. If it is just adults involved you are not obliged to report it.

All NSPCC will do is pass your referral onto social services. Best to cut out the middle man and refer it straight in. Your concerns go straight to the professionals that can actually help sooner.

Okay thank you everyone, I will call SS in the morning. If I’m honest, very naively of me I didn’t know that I could go to them directly, which is why my first thought was to ring 101.
does anyone know If I can ask to stay annoymous? I really am concerned it’ll get linked back to me/my children. Her husband is incredibly intimidating and aggressive

@thiscantbemylife this is so helpful & reassuring. Thank you!

Yes you can ask to stay anonymous, however this does make it harder for social workers to filter out what is genuine and what is a malicious complaint. If you give your name when you call but ask for it to be kept anonymous from the family this will help a bit.

Domestic abuse is considered child abuae if it takes place in front of kids, which it may well do. Report to SS or the nursery who will report it.

It is infront of the children yes, that’s what she’s told me anyway. The things they have supposedly seen are horrific. It is heartbreaking & that’s why I need to step in now

Well done op,if she's confided in others it could be anyone reporting it or even one of the kids saying something at nursery.
I reported a case of neglect and nothing untoward came back my way I didn't give my name just incase.

Good for you OP. Those children deserve someone to protect them. And of course hopefully the mother can be supported as well.

I hope the call to SS goes well.

How did the social services call go OP?