Mixed sex sleepover for 9 year old.

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DS is turning 9 and is desperate to have a sleepover for his birthday (his older brother has had one). The only possible issue is his best friend is a girl and he is so excited to invite her. Would it be unreasonable to invite and obviously accept if her parents don't feel comfortable? I don't know if I'm overthrowing it just because it's "boys and girls" Would you allow a mixed sex sleepover at this age?

Yes, it's fine. They won't be having sex.

I think it's fine, but maybe chat to her parents? And provide a separate area for getting changed (I have girls, so we used to have girls in the bedroom and boys in the bathroom for getting ready for bed).

Thank you. I am on good terms with her mum so think I will ask. Great shout on the changing area. I'll definitely make sure she has that available if she can come. It's so silly, I just really wasn't sure if I'd seem like a weirdo for even asking!

We had mixed sex sleepovers all through secondary school as we had a close mixed sex friendship group. The suggestion we'd have been up to anything untoward together would have horrified us, let alone at primary age. Surely you'd provide separate changing areas even for same sex guests, ie they'd change one at a time in the bathroom?

I probably wouldn't only invite one girl and a group of boys.

I think it's fine as long as her parents are happy.

I had a mixed sex sleepover for my 10th. I think my parents hovered around until all asleep and then as soon as one of us woke the next day they got up.

Thanks. Good to see it wouldn't be a big issue. I'll ask the question. So far he's only bothered about inviting her! So it will likely be just the two of them. They do have frequent play dates so it's just going to be a long one!

I'll definitely make sure she has her own space.

Absolutely ok with me. My DD plays with all the kids on the street, boys & girls. She just sees them all as her friends & that’s it! I think it sounds lovely.

I think I’d be ok with it as long as my daughter wasn’t the only girl at an all boys sleepover. But I wouldn’t be allowing a one girl to 3 boys or a one girl one boy sleepover 🤷🏻‍♀️

DD is 19, her Best Friend a boy .. he’s slept over here, in her room, for years . Nothing untoward

My 9 year old son had his best female friend for a sleepover during the summer. I did briefly wonder at what age would this no longer be appropriate, but I think at the moment it's fine. Her parents didn't raise any concerns. She had her own bed on the floor and he was in high high cabin bed. I left the door ajar overnight, and my bedroom is opposite his.

DS is 8. His best friend is a girl. They have sleepovers all the time. Her Mum and I are dreading the days when they drift apart or things become weird because they’re different sexes.

My best friend throughout Primary and beyond was a boy. We used to have a sleepovers, nothing ever happened between us. We'd known each other since nursery and our parents were friends which sounds like a similar situation to you.

Personally wouldn't allow this if I was parent of the girl, but could maybe suggest a late night play date (pick up/ drop off home at 11 or something so they can watch a film, play or whatever)

I wouldn't be happy with this as the parent of a 10yo DD! But tbh, I don't allow sleep-overs, period.

Nope, not on my watch

It's the parents/other adults I don't trust

My 8 year old boy is going to a sleepover with two girls next week. It hasn’t even occurred to
me to worry about the fact the children are different sexes.