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To think we should have told the nurses we were there from the start.

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confusedabouthormones · 11/09/2024 11:14

So daughter has a condo which means she needs bloods and stool samples 6 weekly. GP does them
Normally but as last results were abnormal they asked her to go to the clinic on hospital. The nurse who runs the clinic called her to make the appointment and told her to go to a certain area and sit on the green seats for 10am.

We got here one woman was sitting there. Two nurses were beside a trolly full of notes outside a door. (I'm a ward nurse so I said to daughter - go tell them
Ur here) she refused. Saying they told her just to sit on the green seats. We did. 3 other people came were seen and went. I must add they didn't alert said nurses to their arrival either. I said I'll go tell them ur here. She was cross and said no. They eventually came over to her at 11 and asked who she was.

(At this stage I was furious with her and she sent me to sit in the car because I was stressing her)

She should have bloody told them
She was there at the start. Who cares if it offended their system. We would have saved ourselves over an hour wait.

OP posts:
Leafygreen84 · 11/09/2024 11:17

Why didn’t you just go and tell them?

TheBeardedClown · 11/09/2024 11:25

How old is your daughter?

PollyDactyl · 11/09/2024 11:28

I would have told the nurses, too.

Is your daughter mid teens, that awkward age where Mum breathing is enough to set off a tanty?

Anywherebuthere · 11/09/2024 11:39

How old is she? If shes a child then you should have told them but if she's an adult then yes she should have.

Either way hopefully shes realised for next time.

Be grateful it was just took them an hour to ask who she was.

LadyInDecline · 11/09/2024 12:02

How old is she?

I wouldn't have just sat there. I can't believe you did.

Investinmyself · 11/09/2024 12:44

I’m guessing she’s 18. She’ll know for next time. I suppose you could have forced issue and said I’m not sitting here like a lemon you can bus home I’m going.

Precipice · 11/09/2024 12:46

The other patients didn't go 'introduce themselves' either, yet were seen. Why not your daughter?

If everyone else acted in the same way, but the result was different, why are you irritated at your daughter for acting in the same way as everybody else?

MonsteraMama · 11/09/2024 12:50

How old is she? My daughter went through a phase at about 14 where the idea of speaking to another human unless absolutely necessary was a cardinal sin, and my talking to strangers was THE most mortifying experience of her life. However as I'm an adult and she's a child, I would commit this act of treason regularly regardless of her protests. Otherwise we'd never get shit done.

If she's grown then you should've just taken yourself off to the cafe for a sarnie and left her to it instead of sitting there seething and also not talking to the nurses.

confusedabouthormones · 11/09/2024 13:04

Sorry. Daughter is 20. She's very anxious about her condition so she takes me to the appointments at the hospital for support. (Although I fear I was a problem today in retrospect) it turns out the nurse who phoned her forgot to put her name on the appointment list so they didn't know she was there. They only asked as they saw her sitting in their queue. We established before she left that in future it won't do any harm to tell them
She is there.

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PurpleHiker · 11/09/2024 13:12

I'd ask her to reimburse you for the hospital parking. In future she might be more willing to pipe up if she has to pay for parking that mounts up every single minute that you're waiting.

Glasgowqueen · 22/03/2025 13:48

Op daughter is 20 not 15 it's up to her if she makes unwise choices.Next time drop her off and wait in the hospital coffee shop for her or drop her off and she gets the bus home.

Tagyoureit · 22/03/2025 13:52

What stupid behaviour. What's wrong with checking in with staff so they know you're there?

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