Too soon?

[LucyHatch]

Sister in law has three young children. Separated from partner. She has met another partner in the last year and he is now living with her. He had three children from a previous relationship although he doesn’t see them often. Sister in law said due to mother being difficult. I feel uneasy how quickly he has moved in.

Your feelings are yours and you have a right to feel them. And this is where your involvement ends, I'm afraid.

It’s not okay IMO but its
not really your issue to be bothered with

Where’s your sibling/other sibling in law in this equation and if she’s struggling, can’t they help her more?

Educated guess, but I expect she knows this man better than you do.

I would feel uneasy too, and make sure I keep a good relationship with my sister and her children so I can either see evidence that my uneasiness is unfounded or if there are any signs he is a danger I can get advice/ do a Clare's Law application/ support her.

My husband, her brother and I are very close with her and children are frequently together. I don’t know why I am uneasy but I am. Could simply be a case of her moving on but the speed has just shocked me.

I would think that maybe she wanted your dd over to keep her dd occupied while she had a date night. I'm not sure what I would think about that and I do think she should have mentioned it. The fact she didn't would bother me.

I'd be concerned for my nieces/nephews if their mum moved moved a new bloke in early on in the relationship. It's an added red flag that he doesn't see his own children much. Unfortunately there's very little you can do when other people aren't responsible parents.