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To think this was intentional

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BeAzureNewt · 10/09/2024 18:34

A few weeks ago I posted about a guy I was dating, he stopped texting me and turns out he is actually married not divorced.
A few days ago I opened the dating app where I met him again and his brother sent me a like there.
Both him and brother seem to have fake names but they look alike so after matching I searched and found him on Facebook,I had this gut feeling.
We started talking and he started asking if there's anything new 5 mins into convo and then we spoke on the phone.
He started talking to me about his life how he is speprated when he is actually married and talked to me about how all his brothers are also married and asked if we could go for a coffee to which I revealed the truth that I know his name and that he is the brother of the guy i dated.
At first he denied knowing him saying he doesn't know a guy named like that etc then he accepted they are brothers after I told him that I spotted them together on a Facebook photo.
He acted like he knew nothing about me even though they are both married men using the same dating app and spend all day together as they work at same place.
The lies were just unbelievable.
Couple of days before this ,a guy also friend requested me both on FB and insta ,I thought he was a distant cousin so I accepted.
He told me he saw me on the dating app and then found me on FB ,when I asked how he found me since I only have my short name there he said he was lucky and being vague.
Started asking if I dated anyone from the app and other questions.
But one strange thing is that when I asked of he sent me like in the app he said he doesn't remember so I confronted him ,told him i know sb put you up to this and blocked him.
After I block this guy I received the like from my date's brother.
Can all this be a coincidence and the brother really didn't know about me?
Or does this feel like a set up ?
Now I have blocked them after I sent him a message threatening to tell everything to his wife if he continues playing games like this.

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Pherian · 14/09/2024 10:19

Jesus that was a rollercoaster. I think you’re over thinking all this. Block them and move on with your life.

In fact immediately block any man that makes you feel weird.

Alwaysinamood · 14/09/2024 10:38

Could one of them have been his wife pretending to be someone else to find out about suspicions she’s had about her husband ??

MorphandMindy · 14/09/2024 10:41

Yeah, you're being stalked. Block them and don't accept friend requests from people you don't know. I'd stay off the dating app for a while too, or find a different one - you can't trust this one anymore.

Comingupriver · 14/09/2024 10:42

Why give it your energy. Block and move on and thank goodness they’re not yours.

thursdaymurderclub · 14/09/2024 10:45

jesus... do you actually have the energy for all that! thats beyond stalking on your part OP. you actually sound crazy

Xmasdaft2023 · 14/09/2024 12:25

my guess is it’s the same person posing as his brother!
block block block

BeAzureNewt · 14/09/2024 13:47

@thursdaymurderclub
Me stalking?or him having his brother and a random guy on FB message me ?
I only searched Facebook once I had doubts.
It's not that I searched and found nothing this guy was actually his brother so don't know who is the crazy one here.

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BeAzureNewt · 14/09/2024 13:49

@MorphandMindy
I got them both banned from dating app and blocked on everything once I found out about the stalking and him being married.

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angellinaballerina7 · 14/09/2024 13:51

Why are you connecting on a dating platform to relatives of someone you’ve already dated? Let’s move it out of that gene pool, please.

BeAzureNewt · 14/09/2024 14:02

@angellinaballerina7 I didn't know they were related at first .

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angellinaballerina7 · 14/09/2024 14:19

BeAzureNewt · 14/09/2024 14:02

@angellinaballerina7 I didn't know they were related at first .

No, you’ve actually said that you agreed to speak to him and then “revealed the truth” that you knew who he was. You seem to have known who he was after you looked him up on Facebook, so why there was a phone call is beyond me.

onwardsup4 · 14/09/2024 14:22

thursdaymurderclub · 14/09/2024 10:45

jesus... do you actually have the energy for all that! thats beyond stalking on your part OP. you actually sound crazy

Huh really? Absolutely sensible to look these men up and get information especially if the situation seems odd.
Yes keep them blocked and move on OP

BeAzureNewt · 14/09/2024 14:31

@angellinaballerina7
Because once I found out I wanted to talk to him and expose him, his brother said very elaborate lies for 3 months just to get me to bed and then he disappeared ,that seriously messed me up emotionally and gave me anxiety for a few weeks.
That phone call made find out his brother was married and the realisation on his brother voice once I told him I knew was priceless ,I owed that much to myself.

The feeling of them actually getting banned from the app is even better in case they thought they could mess with me one more time.

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