DP liking Instagram photos

[pinliy]

I have seen that DP has been liking Instagram photos of women that he's previously slept with.

They're dressed in bikinis and some in provocative poses.

AIBU to be pissed off?

Why would you be pissed off? You both sound like teenagers

It's disrespectful. I'm with you @pinliy

Why is he even looking at their photos, let alone "liking" them? It sounds really proprietary: as though sleeping with them gives him some sort of ownership of their bodies.
Certainly not the type of behaviour I would expect from a DP if he is supposed to be in a loving, monogamous relationship with you. It's very disrespectful.

I wouldn’t like that either, it’s disrespectful to you.
Its one thing if he has looked at the photos, but ‘liking’ the photos gives a signal to these women that he’s seen them and is interested.

Exactly this. Thank you

I'm not saying I'd like this but this is ridiculous. The women are putting the photos on instagram or whatever and people generally want people to " like" their photos so how is that some kind of ownership?

I guess their granny potentially also has ownership of their body or the local shopping centre or any number of brands that randomly like photos

Because OP specifically says he is " liking" the photos of women he has slept with. Not just women with bodies he finds attractive but specifically those with bodies he has had.
It is not random.

He may have also been " liking" pictures of women he hasn't slept with

This would bother me too OP.

I based my answer on the information OP gave us.
I don't know why you are picking me up on something OP didn't say.
Unless of course you are just being argumentative for the sake of it.

yes of course this is totally inappropriate. He may well be hearting their stories too or god knows what else, if he so openly is liking their bikini pics on their profile. He sounds gross.

Wouldn't put up with it any more than I'd put up with a man liking photos of other women online (that aren't friends ie - strangers photos specifically designed for the male gaze) tbh.

It's not about jealousy. Both my OH & I find other people attractive, we'll talk about it very occasionally. We've been together long enough there's no insecurity there.

It is however (and we're agreed on this) really cringey & disrespectful. For us, looking is fine, making a public declaration about it through likes or comments, is not, and we honestly cringe when we see other people doing it. Have a bit of decorum.

Exactly the same for me if I happen to scroll past a picture of a handsome man with rippling muscles. I can appreciate it - I don't need to press 'like', or comment on it, alerting others on my social media to it, to do so.

Honestly in either case I'd just walk, cos it's not for me. Don't need to put up with sleazy behaviour from fella's who can't behave appropriately, so I don't and haven't.

If my DH liked a picture of his ex (a friend of ours, now married to someone else) on a beach pulling a daft face, just got out the water after a plunge and just happened to be wearing a bikini - fine.

If my DH liked a provocatively posed image of her in a bikini, pouting at the camera - not fine. Possibly explainable as a "just being nice" if he'd liked other pictures from her holiday album, but I'd tell him it wasn't on.

There's a difference.

If she was someone neither of us speak to, again - not fine. Especially not if it's public for others to see. It's disrespectful. I'd want to know what else he was looking at or liking.

It's just sleazy.

The provocative poses thing - shows the class level of these women.

Your partner clearly wants them to know he is still looking at them and is interested - at the very least

He is sending a message here - and if you ignore the red flag then yous the fool

Although I agree with you, why on earth are you looking at what he's liking? That in itself is unhealthy.

Never did a decent relationship come from this sort of behaviour. Dump!

All kinds of unnecessary.

He does not respect you and wants his exs to know that he's still into them. Please get rid of him, you deserve better.

Of course you should be pissed off. That's a MAJOR red flag OP, a major one. Seriously. No doubt he's even sending private messages.

Are you serious? It's social media where you can see what you want. Why would she not look? It's obviously there for people to see

I wouldnt have a clue what my DH clicks like on, nor him me. How do you know what your DH is liking....clearly stalking the profiles of the people he has slept with to know her DH is liking them.

How old are you both and do u have children

Doesn't sound like much of a darling. Are you going to keep him as a boyfriend?

I'd be more worried about him having exes who are the kind of person who post a lot of bikini selfies on Instagram to be honest

I wouldn't like it either