to feel annoyed that I have found out via a social networking site that my brother and his girlfriend are expecting a baby?

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I am really pleased that they are expecting a baby but I can't help but feel very pissed off that I found out about it on bloody facebook! To be fair it was a friend of hers that spilled the beans on the site and they are aware of this. My Dad spoke to my brother about it and he said that they had wanted to keep it quiet until they reached the 12 week mark because of the miscarriage they had had a few months earlier.
maybe the fact that they have chosen to tell friends before family is what has got to me too. Am I being unreasonable? Perhaps I should just get over it and phone them to congratulate them. What do you think?

I wouldn't bother too much, I only found out my sister was expecting her second because I happened across her "where is my AF" type thread on mumsnet.....

i think tht although i can see why its annoyed you, as you werent the only one kept in the lurch and they have a very gd reason you should let it go and be happy for them, your gonna be an auntie after all!!

I wouldn't be too upset given it sounds like the person who gave it away did it accidently, and against the wishes of your bro.

Did you really tell your family before all your friends? I am 6 weeks and have told a few friends but no family. Mainly because we have not seen family yet and we want to tell them in person. I am now worried that a friend might comment on my Facebook wall without thinking!

Don't take it personally. Sometimes the family is last to know, simply because many women are closer to their friends then to their family.

I told my friends before I told my family. Would have been really annoyed if one of them had announced it on the internet!

I'd try not to worry about it.
When I found out I was og, every time, I have called my best friend straight away, before anyone else was told.

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Makingdo - that's exactly why I didn't tell my mum for ages. She would have been far too worried about me.

You're all right of course. Thanks for being voices of reason. I won't take it personally.

They might not have confided in friends first - my friends sussed long before I told any of our family. It was when I turned down alcohol .... there was only one reason I'd do that .

In fact my boss knew before some of my family because I was off sick during the first few weeks.

It was really to protect us from upset that we didn't tell anyone else. We'd had 2 mcs already and just couldn't face telling everyone, to then have to tell them again that we had lost it.

YABU.

When you've been through a miscarriage (I know, I had 7 of them), it is almost impossible to tell people who you are close to until the 12 week mark, for a whole host of v emotional reasons. An impersonal internet is the only place you feel able to be excited/scared. Or possibly a close friend who can sympathise but not get toooooo involved.

They didn't do it to spite you. YABU

make the call and congrtaulate them. dont get all Machiavellian about this, i bet they meant no harm, families always have more emotional bonds/expectations than dear friends and as such can be easier to tell things to

TBH there are bigger things to stress about.

I am feeling really emotional today having read about a baby who died as the hospital staff missed signs the baby was in trouble (our son had similar but thank God he is here) and my kids would love cousins and for me to be an auntie, so ring and congratulate them and get over it.