Mother in law

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This is quite a trivial post and i'm not here to annoy anyone but wanted to ask if anyones mother in law / in laws seemingly attach so much importance to the biological sex of your children?

Since Ive been married, or in fact even before DH and I welcomed our children, I've observed DMIL Introducing people as "this is insert name and she has four boys"; or "insert name and they have two girls and a boy" etc and if she is enquiring about DH's friends she asks how many children they now have and what their gender/sex is. Name and sexnof children dominates the conversation. For example, DHs friends from uni the first thing she asks is about their families (fair enough) but then she asks "what are they?". It strikes me as weird. Dh answers accordingly but I'm thinking to myself why does this exact conversation occur with every person who has children.

For context, I'm a mum of three girls but there's always a remark about hormones or an implication that I need her seal of approval for my family dynamic. Yes this is weird but it's always there and I know it's not my imagination.

AIBU to think this is weird and feel a little depressed about it when it's always mentioned every time we meet up?

Was she a SAHM? Perhaps this is her way of showing interest in people, the same way other people immediately ask what you do for work.

Anyway, this feels like a non issue. What is it that bothers you about it?

Sounds normal, don't people always ask if you have boys/girls when in conversation about kids? I've been asked a million times it doesn't bother me at all.

I know it's a non-issue, it's more an annoyance on my part lol No, she was not a SAHM. It's more about using the sex of your children as an identity. She always says about having one of each and her and Dh are very close (that's always been lovely to see) but she does says boys need their mums more, and then she goes on about girls' hormones etc but nothing about her grandsons. When I was pregnant with each of my daughters, they would have joked about praying for Dh to have a son etc more a load of things I used to get annoyed about and I figure I'm over analysing things now

Definitely sounds over analysed!

Have you tried introducing her to your circle of friends saying "This is DMiL, and she has X boys/Y girls" depending on how many siblings your DH has?

It's very gameshow-esque.
"We welcome Marjorie, she is a mother to two lovely kids and a stay at home mom. Welcome to the Wheel of Fortune Marjorie!"

When DS was born my ILs presented us with a card which stated ‘at last a boy!’. 🧒 t was so insensitive, I already two DDs and had two late miscarriages which were both boys. Then they kept referring to DS as ‘the boy’, it was clear they value boys over girls.

Dunno tbh but I think you might be reading a bit too much into it?

😂 I must try it lol I come from a large family and each of my siblings has a son as well as daughters where it's only DH and his sister who had all boys and then had a girl. It feels strange to me to use it in an opening statement lol when my friend was expecting her first, SIL and MIl were surprised to hear she had a girl first and thought she'd have a son. I asked why and they said because she's very confident and outgoing lol

Yes, more to say if this is a thing as obviously I don't get out much 😂

I am sorry about your late miscarriages and having to endure such heartache

This is so bloody insensitive

😂 I know the feeling of not getting out much!