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Aibu to think that people are really angry these days?

28 replies

Agn · 08/09/2024 21:02

Slimming world woman apparently gets lots of nasty messages. Just for running a slimming class. Volunteer at my local SEN charity gets lots of nasty messages online. Just on an anecdotal basis, are people now often simmering with anger on lots of topics?

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Sethera · 08/09/2024 21:03

HOW DARE YOU POST THIS QUESTION!!!!Angry

(Joking - YANBU) 😀

chaosmaker · 08/09/2024 21:05

Yep @Agn too many people on the planet, makes everyone angry!

insidenumber9 · 08/09/2024 21:07

Yes there's waaaay more road rage these days. It got worse after lockdown I think

oObyeOo · 08/09/2024 21:08

Yes!… I was on the high street today with 10yr old dd. It was pissing it down and we were walking fast to get to where we needed to be. We ended up behind a woman with a brolly. I said to dd AS A JOKE to get under her brolly. Knowing full well dd would just look at me funny and not do it. Well the woman turned round and gave me the filthiest look I’ve had in a long time 🙄😂

CatamaranViper · 08/09/2024 21:09

oObyeOo · 08/09/2024 21:08

Yes!… I was on the high street today with 10yr old dd. It was pissing it down and we were walking fast to get to where we needed to be. We ended up behind a woman with a brolly. I said to dd AS A JOKE to get under her brolly. Knowing full well dd would just look at me funny and not do it. Well the woman turned round and gave me the filthiest look I’ve had in a long time 🙄😂

Edited

That's because there are loads of cheeky fuckers these days too who probably would hide under someone's brolly and invade their personal space.

brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr · 08/09/2024 21:11

Spending every day being rinsed by extractive capitalism has that effect on people

Abitlosttoday · 08/09/2024 21:19

brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr · 08/09/2024 21:11

Spending every day being rinsed by extractive capitalism has that effect on people

Yes. This. I think people sense that they're being shafted but can't quite place how.

Anywherebuthere · 08/09/2024 21:23

Yes.
The basic manners have disappeared too. Rarely hear 'Thanks or excuse me ' and so on. It's just glares or poker faces.

poppyzbrite4 · 08/09/2024 21:25

The internet has been really bad for revealing people's rage and real feelings, especially towards women.

Agn · 08/09/2024 21:30

Abitlosttoday · 08/09/2024 21:19

Yes. This. I think people sense that they're being shafted but can't quite place how.

Yes they seem to blame everyone else instead of thinking it’s a systemic issue. I’m sure the media feeds into that. Also, social media perhaps is not helping.

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ssd · 08/09/2024 21:32

Yes i agree, people are angrier now

Agn · 08/09/2024 21:32

This SW consultant and the SEN volunteer.. both of them provided support for other people on little or no money and experiencing massive rage. Often the rage is behind an IP address. People don’t seem to realise things can be traced.

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Sopon · 08/09/2024 21:33

Yes you can tell what people are like by how they are on here, mainly horrible

Agn · 08/09/2024 21:34

Sopon · 08/09/2024 21:33

Yes you can tell what people are like by how they are on here, mainly horrible

And on here, by standards elsewhere, people are very nice. These people seem to be getting anonymous messages from really nasty people.

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Sopon · 08/09/2024 21:35

I haven't found it very nice on here

ABirdsEyeView · 08/09/2024 21:41

Yes. People seem to be picking arguments online over the most trivial shit and getting quite nasty, totally unnecessarily!
And on the roads. Anywhere where there's a degree of separation, rather than in person imo. I still find most people irl to be quite civil.

Ribenaberry12 · 08/09/2024 21:41

Yes. I work in a high school and have had parents scream in my face, swear, all sorts. Not to mention the turning up half dressed, vaping whilst doing it.

One of my friends stood for election as Green Party candidate against the local MP and, omg. The abuse she’d get online. She’d post something like ‘I’ll be in X church hall for a public meeting, come along and say hi.’ And people would literally telling her to eff off and die in the comments. She’s been a local councillor for years and has helped hundreds of these same people. People are dicks.

poppyzbrite4 · 08/09/2024 21:47

Sopon · 08/09/2024 21:35

I haven't found it very nice on here

Why have you stayed?

BanksysSprayCan · 08/09/2024 21:51

Yes I have noticed this as well and agree with the above.

Some is also due to anxiety and depression - lack of money, affording things, the prospect of another winter in a cold, increasingly mouldy home, climate change, AI, rise of the far right, wars escalating.

BaBaMulticolouredSheep · 08/09/2024 21:53

Yes OP I agree. I think it's lots of things. Too many people, too many cars on the road, walking has become a minefield with bikes whizzing by every couple of minutes. Houses built too close together so lots of noise from kids, DIY etc getting on peoples nerves. It feels more and more difficult to get some space and peace to yourself. Lots of angry, driving up your bumper drivers (often women I'm surprised to say). House Prices going up and the rental crisis making renters feel insecure and scared. People on ladder can't get up the next rung because prices keep going up so people are living in houses too small for them with no storage space and pocket size gardens overlooked by a zillion other houses.

Lots of us seem to have lost our ability to read a book and zone out that way and instead do things like read mumsnet which is interesting but more of real life and problems.

People are scared and angry because they know if they get sick they can't get a GP and queues at A&E are huge. Dentists are all going private so if you don't have money you are screwed.

All the good systems which the UK had over the years seem to be disappearing - free healthcare, good education for all, dentist for all, homes for all, good manners and consideration for others, decent customer service, available tradesmen who were reliable

Oh and more of us are fat and consuming too much sugar and UPF. As a fat person myself it makes you more tired, more grumpy and just more bad tempered in general.

I've definately noticed a difference in the last few years

Agn · 08/09/2024 21:53

Ribenaberry12 · 08/09/2024 21:41

Yes. I work in a high school and have had parents scream in my face, swear, all sorts. Not to mention the turning up half dressed, vaping whilst doing it.

One of my friends stood for election as Green Party candidate against the local MP and, omg. The abuse she’d get online. She’d post something like ‘I’ll be in X church hall for a public meeting, come along and say hi.’ And people would literally telling her to eff off and die in the comments. She’s been a local councillor for years and has helped hundreds of these same people. People are dicks.

Wtf. No need.

And your friend’s experience is just shocking and surely illegal?

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Agn · 08/09/2024 21:57

BaBaMulticolouredSheep · 08/09/2024 21:53

Yes OP I agree. I think it's lots of things. Too many people, too many cars on the road, walking has become a minefield with bikes whizzing by every couple of minutes. Houses built too close together so lots of noise from kids, DIY etc getting on peoples nerves. It feels more and more difficult to get some space and peace to yourself. Lots of angry, driving up your bumper drivers (often women I'm surprised to say). House Prices going up and the rental crisis making renters feel insecure and scared. People on ladder can't get up the next rung because prices keep going up so people are living in houses too small for them with no storage space and pocket size gardens overlooked by a zillion other houses.

Lots of us seem to have lost our ability to read a book and zone out that way and instead do things like read mumsnet which is interesting but more of real life and problems.

People are scared and angry because they know if they get sick they can't get a GP and queues at A&E are huge. Dentists are all going private so if you don't have money you are screwed.

All the good systems which the UK had over the years seem to be disappearing - free healthcare, good education for all, dentist for all, homes for all, good manners and consideration for others, decent customer service, available tradesmen who were reliable

Oh and more of us are fat and consuming too much sugar and UPF. As a fat person myself it makes you more tired, more grumpy and just more bad tempered in general.

I've definately noticed a difference in the last few years

Good points about those basic facets of life - ie health, accommodation etc.

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oObyeOo · 08/09/2024 22:12

CatamaranViper · 08/09/2024 21:09

That's because there are loads of cheeky fuckers these days too who probably would hide under someone's brolly and invade their personal space.

Potentially! I would never dream of doing that though!

I smiled at her when she looked at me but she just turned away

Cherryana · 08/09/2024 22:41

In pouring torrential rain on a fast ‘A’ road. A massive lorry decided to drive right up my backside. Beep his loud horn and flash his lights at me. He then swung out, overtook me and got so much further down the road. Oh no, he didn’t. he had to just come back in front of me..because of all the other cars there was no where to go.

What was the point? None. Just to be an aggressive prick.

Thelnebriati · 08/09/2024 23:04

I'm in a baking group and sometimes people join just to post nasty messages or angry rants. IDK what effect they think they are having or what they get out of it, they just get booted out.