Dropped by friend

[Thebigone3]

A friend of mine whom I would consider my best friend for about the last 7 years and I have recently drifted apart. I feel this is no doing of mine.
about a year ago she took up with a new group of friends and I barely heard from her. Before this we would have been in contact everyday via text, just checking in on each other.
Her husband I feel is very manipulative and controlling and as a result of this she has fallen out with most of her family members (due to arguments over him)
He introduced her to a new group of friends (they are the wives/girlfriends of his new group of friends.)
He moves from friend group to friend group almost yearly as he ends up falling out with everyone.
I have been through a pretty rough time this past year and a half and I could have really done with her support. I feel that she was not there at all and when I mentioned this to her she basically said I was being immature and accused me of sulking because she didn’t instantly respond to my messages, that she was a very busy person and hardly had a minute to herself.
I was hurt but thought to myself maybe I was being a bit over sensitive.
Then the invites for coffee and nights out stopped coming from her and all these pics of her out with these new group started showing up on my social media.
They went on holidays abroad and girly nights away. None of which I was invited too even for her birthday.
Again I was hurt, she would text about once a month looking to arrange a coffee and the one time she managed to show up she asked me to meet her at a soft play area as she was minding one of the children of her new friends and it would be convenient for her to meet there. I don’t have young children and don’t frequent soft play areas!
During the meet up the conversation was quite formal and she spent most of the time pandering to the demands of this child!
I really do miss our conversations and her friendship and I know that her and her husband have had a bit of a disagreement with these new group of friends now. (I heard through someone else)
she did message me not long after they all fell out but I didn’t respond for a few days as I was annoyed cause I hadn’t heard from her for a couple of months before that.
I feel that we should probably meet up and air out the problems but I also feel that she is just oblivious to the way she has treated me and I don’t want to seem as though I am begging for her attention or friendship. Should I just forget about her friendship or am I being unreasonable to feel like this and just go back to the way things were without saying anything.

If she is being controlled by her dh she may need yoyr friendship so l would meet her but when out, bring it up - tell her how you feel and let her speak too.

If someone has done this once, they'll likely do it again. You might think it's her husband influencing things, but in reality, she's the one who stopped reaching out. Let's be honest—if she truly missed you, she would have kept in touch, just as she’s doing now. If you decide to give her another chance and rekindle the friendship, be prepared for it to end once they find a new group of mutual friends.
If I were you and still like her I would definitely meet her from time to time but wouldn't trust her like before, she would be more an acquaintance than a friend.

I would give it one last go if only to tell her exactly how you see things, listen to her side and then judge from there how to proceed.

Oh my goodness. This is life... you don't always get back what you give but usually there's always.more to it than meets the eye. Don't become the victim here but keep reaching out and see how she responds. Also many people do have difficulty with being friends with more than one(set) simultaneously.

Her husband has manipulated her into dropping you so that he can pull her into his friendship dramas.

That's the most likely scenario.

If I were you I'd tell her that I still cared for her and I valued her friendship and would she like to go to XYZ. I wouldn't even have the raking over the past discussion for a good few months.

Notwithstanding the controlling husband, she doesn’t sound particularly nice herself. I would distance myself for my own sake. There’s no need to keep contacting her. If she needs you once her relationship falters, she will without a doubt contact you, then you can decide where to go from there.

I’d be looking for new friends if I were you. Her DH may be controlling and brings out the worst in her, but I think his abusive behaviour and the way she’s treating you are separate issues.

I’ve got a friend like this. Weirdly, her DH is controlling, but she’s always been someone who would drop you for a better offer

Just let her go. I value loyalty in friendship. People flaky. Unless a good reason for it.

She's a user! I know it's hard but try and find a new friend group. She was happy enough not to invite you to her birthday, leave her to it!

This friendship is dead in the water. Just ignore her.

I can’t believe you went to the soft play, she was using you as entertainment whilst she sucked up one of her new friends by taking their child to soft play on their own.

Thanks everyone for all your helpful comments. I have decided to distance myself, for my own sake really. I was giving it to much space in my head and I really do believe if I did rekindle the friendship she would drop me again for a new set of friends when they come along.
I also value loyalty very much in a person and she has showed she has very little to me.