AIBU

[sherbertcandy]

We recently celebrated our 30th wedding anniversary. AIBU that most family and friends have ignored it? We have had a rough time health wise in the last ten years but our grown up lads just got us cards but extended family didn't say or even give us a card? Is this people's opinions of wedding anniversaries now?

Unless you're holding an event, I'm not sure people would remember?

I can't imagine remembering anyone else's wedding anniversary.

YABU

DH & I celebrate our wedding anniversary and my children celebrate theirs. We would probably celebrate 25 & 50 as a family. We're already nearly 40.

Agree with this.

I think at most people possibly remember first anniversaries but unless you're doing something to celebrate the milestone then no I doubt many people would send cards or congratulations.

Anniversaries are predominantly for the couple in my experience.

No one is much bothered by other peoples wedding anniversaries.You should have had a do if you wanted cards and presents.

It's for you two to celebrate really unless you're having a party. No one else really gives a fuck

I doubt these people even remembered it was your anniversary.

Yes you are.

Congratulations but remembering my own anniversary is it for me! Unless someone invited me to a anniversary party I wouldn’t think to remember their date, not out of malice or anything but I’ve always thought anniversaries are really just for the couple and not for other people to have to acknowledge and send cards for. I think what you’re expecting isn’t the norm and you’re setting yourself up for disappointment.

Unless you are having a party why would people think to celebrate it? My dad and I had this conversation yesterday - in the main anniversaries are for the two people involved, no one else.

A wedding anniversary is between a couple.

If you have a party and invite people then it would be rude for them not to show up with a card, as it would with any party, but I would be giving a card for an anniversary otherwise.

I couldn’t tell you when anyone else’s wedding anniversary is, including my siblings and parents.

This

If you want to celebrate something then host a party. Why would you wait for others to mark the occasion?

We celebrate anniversarys just the 2 of us but even my kids in there 20s don't even get us a card never expected them to.

A wedding anniversary is for you, the couple, to celebrate. It's nice your children got cards, but I don't see why anyone else (or even your children if I'm honest!) need to mark an anniversary that is between you and your husband?

The only people in the world I've ever sent anniversary cards to are my elderly parents.

And they're the only people who have ever sent them to me and my DH.

It wouldn't occur to me to receive from or send to anyone else 🤷‍♂️

Anniversaries are really just for the couple. I would say happy anniversary if someone reminded me it was their anniversary but 30th isn't a particularly big one.

Yes YABU.

And yes I agree that if you want to involve others in celebrating your personal anniversary, you'll need to throw a party.