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[Flute56]

I just thought I would join an online dating site and the questions they ask us so intrusive they ask you when did you last tap your last relationship and when did it end and while it end you have to put down what job you do how much money you earn you have to upload three photographs of yourself it really did put me off and when you're looking at other people once you've joined how do you know the photographs are genuinely of them

You don’t have to answer their questions if you’re not comfortable with doing that. And you can also ghost or block them. I know it’s not nice, but it’s an option. But you can also just not answer them.

I don’t know which site you’re using, but on some of them, people’s profiles connect to their social media (e.g. Instagram, Facebook), which I suppose is a way of verifying their identity in a way.

Or you can always do a bit of sleuthing and Google them, to find out if they are who they say they are. Of course, not everyone has an online presence, but most people probably do nowadays.

The site I looked at wouldn't let you join unless every question was answered and some of them were so intrusive I didn't bother in the end

I mean why do you have to upload three photographs of yourself one is sufficient

Most people want to see more than one in my experience. I don't care for millions of questions but more photos give people a more well rounded view of you. Plus... most men admit to not reading the profiles. They just go by the photos

The questions are so that the algorithms can do their thing (badly usually) and match you with people they think you have more in common with. Though inevitably online dating is more about the pictures than the profile blurb.

Adding more than one photo does help weed out some of the fake profiles as most will look at some form of photo verification to make sure all the photos you upload are at least of the same person.

Three photos is to ensure (to some degree) that you are a genuine person not a scammer who downloaded AI-generated image from the internet. I am not really understanding too well the nature of the questions from your OP. Something about previous relationship and your employment - you don’t have to be too specific, surely.
If you don’t want intrusive questions, go on Tinder and do the hard work of weeding out yourself. I think it is good practice to collect information from users to at least attempt to protect people from adulterers, scammers and incels.

I only have one photo, but will send more if asked.

I haven't been on any site which asks particularly intrusive question - I've tried Tinder, Bumble, okcupid and Feeld. There have been some individuals who have asked intrusive questions, but I just think of that as a filtering mechanism. If I feel they're overstepping, I can unmatch.

I won't link to FB, either.