To not know how to step off the hamster wheel?

[Waiting4baby2]

I have a good job. It’s very demanding and a bit unpredictable (so I often end up working late into the night after kids are in bed) but it is interesting. Im also lucky I work 4 days per week but to be honest I end up doing 5 days worth of work and feel I’m always on the back foot with house/ family stuff that needs organising.
I’m now in a senior leadership position. The culture of the company is to keep pushing but recently I’m just like… why?!
I’m a mum of 2. I don’t want to be working as hard as I am but I just don’t know how to step back. I would love to pick up my child from school more than once a week but realistically I couldn’t do my job in 3 days. I can’t really afford to take much of a pay cut either so retraining isn’t really an immediate option. If I don’t keep pushing this hard I think it will be flagged as ‘underperforming’. AIBU to not want to work so bloody hard?! Has anyone found themselves in a similar spot? What did you do?

Is it an industry specific thing, or a workplace - specific thing? Is it worth quietly looking for a new job?

Can you move somewhere cheaper? I chose to step off the hamster wheel by cutting housing costs and also moving somewhere with good public schools - there's more to life than work!

It seems you need better boundaries. No work phone or laptop on outside of working hours.

Thanks for your responses. It is an industry thing. It worked for me when I was younger. I think I’m just coming to terms with the fact it doesn’t work for me anymore.
I do think im someone who always wants to do my best but I’m running myself into the ground and need to set boundaries as you say.
I love our current house and neighbourhood and it’s so close to the schools etc were very settled here. Our mortgage is big though even though our house isn’t. It’s the location that pushes the price up here…
I am looking for other jobs too. It feels a bit of a shame as I’ve put so much into my current company but I think I’m entering a new phase of life and need to make some changes.

It's hard to make sudden change. And sudden changes will be noticed at work.

Are there things you could implement gradually? Like initially having a cut off of, say, 8.00p.m. for work related stuff, then bring It forward gradually to 7.00 and then 6.00.

On the day you don't work, set aside times in the day to check emails etc and gradually reduced this down to once or none.

With Labour coming in, I'd probably sit tight. Your rights to flexible working and not being bothered outside working hours will be stronger under this government before long.

I think there's a chance that if you change jobs, you could find the new place just as demanding.

Are you relatively new to senior leadership? If so, it might get easier over time, the first couple of years are the hardest. Is there anyone you could call on to help you with the hardest bits?

If you're a senior leadership veteran, can you persuade your peer group that another hire is needed to reduce everyone's workload to a more reasonable level, then put a proposal together and take it to the CEO (or whoever the big boss is)?

Thanks for your replies. I’m fairly new to it, I was promoted when I came back from my first mat leave so I really felt I had to prove myself. Then I went on a second maternity leave so I think I’ve gone in from the start feeling I am on the back foot and need to overcompensate. So now this is expected of me. I could just about manage it with nursery age kids but I’m finding school is much harder and as kids get older their bedtime gets later so I need something to change before then. I would love to just leave work at work but maybe nobody actually can do that these days?! I do have the concern new job could be the same or worse…