Looking for a steer in the right direction as I’m tormenting myself with this.
DH attended an industry conference back in July. Came home really excited, said he learned a lot and met great people, which is great for him and I was happy to see him so motivated.
I noticed he was texting a woman he met there. I would see notifications pop up on his phone and accidentally saw some of their messages when I opened his phone to check the weather app (this isn’t unusual, we might use the other’s phone to quickly google something). I wouldn’t say it was flirty, but definitely not the type of texting reserved for friends. It reminded me of the way we would text when we met.
Around this time he starts taking Spanish learning more seriously - he had been learning casually but after meeting this Spanish speaking woman, he is starting to practice more. She is always the first story on his app when he opens IG, she has FaceTimed him in the night before… nothing too threatening and this woman lives overseas, but somehow it doesn’t feel right.
I confronted him and he says they are just friends. I noticed he has muted her messages so notifications don’t come up, but they are still texting. I’m loathe to check his messages, but I know he will see her again in November at the same conference. Do I have reason to be concerned? I want to believe him when he says everything is fine.