To block sons dads other daughter if she, too, starts to give me verbal abuse?

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My ex, as you know from PPs is a horrible abusive piece of work who I am keeping from my son because he has been abusive to me and towards my son.

So, his daughter reached out to me (my son is 7 months and she's never met him due to disagreements with her dad she went to her mums when I was at the start of my pregnancy and didn't speak to us again). Anyways, she asked to meet up to see my son. I said yes. She said her dad wanted a photo of my son with her and her other brother (again my exs child not mine) to send to their dad. I said I didn't want photos to be sent personally however she is so welcome to come along and meet her brother and so is her other brother too. She then asked if my brother can drop my son so their dad can go too. My ex hasn't seen my son for pushing on 2 months now and hasn't a clue who any of them even are!! I said absolutely not and explained he had been very abusive towards both of us and we are recovering from this however she as my sons sister is always welcome and that goes with her brother too. Anyway she soon changed her tone asked to take him out by herself! I said no she's never met him hasn't a clue what to do with him and I know she would go behind my back and take him to see the ex abusive sperm donar of my sons. She then said she will leave me too it as she only wanted a photo of them together. I said so you didn't want to meet your brother? She said she did but wanted her dad there too. I denied this and advised again it is due to abusive behaviour towards me and my son. She now said she will "leave me too it" I said ok babe and advised if she ever changes her mind and I quote "wants to ever meet her flesh and blood the door is always open". She replied "piss off you cunt".... AIBU with what I said?

Apple doesn't fall to far from the tree, does it?

You're right in protecting your son. I'd close that door, btw, she's not t be trusted.

I never want to keep my son from his siblings as long as they are good examples. If she starts to be abusive I will likely block. I don't actually know whether it is my ex messaging through her Facebook and so I screenshotted everything. She will never be with my son alone. I will be there always.

How old are these older children?

Daughter 17(18in feb) son is 20 in November

Yanbu. She verbally abused you, so yanbu to keep the door shut to her as well as her father. She has no respect for your wishes to protect your baby and yourself, and is probably blinded by her loyalty and love for her father, so much so that she gets angry and calls you a cunt. 🤦🏼‍♀️ Can tell who she gets that temper off.

You have absolutely done the right thing. Protect your son and yourself at all costs.
She sounds like a nasty peace of work.
Personally I would block anyones number who called me the C word.

I did make the decision to remove all of his family off my social media. I was keeping these on there originally because really; they'd not abused me, he did. But after speaking with a close friend she offered the advise to get rid of all so I can start to heal as seeing any of them on my feed will trigger me which is absolutely correct. I need these people gone. So I removed them however did not block.

She’s too young to not be influenced by her dad. Anything you say to her will go back to him. Whether that is willingly or whether she’s pumped for info.

You need to focus on you and your son. That’s all. Not building relationships with siblings which the dad didn’t seem bothered about.

Protect your peace.

I understand your intentions but you need to move on from anybody connected to him. The door should be firmly closed on this girl, she doesn’t get another bite of the cherry.

Today my ex turned up at my brothers house telling him he needs to sort arrangements for him to see my son. My brother said he's not getting involved.

I emailed my ex advising if he reached out to anyone in my family again I would get an injunction against him.

I have had enough of this. It's triggered me massively and I feel so down and depressed right now.

Is your ex on your son's birth certificate?
has he ever contributed anything useful towards his life/ maintenance?
i think you'd be better off blocking him and his family (incl your son's half-siblings) as they don't bring anything good to the table, and are actually dangerous to your son's wellbeing