To complain?

[CannotBelieveImAskingThis]

My DS (10 months) has been going to nursery twice a week for 2 months. He has recently changed days due to my work pattern. This means his usual key worker and staff that know him well, aren't in on a Friday.

I went to collect him today at 4.30. He started nursery at 7.15 this morning. During the handover the staff member told me that he'd eaten his morning porridge (8.30), half his lunch (11.30) and no dinner (16.00). She then told me that he'd left 5 of 7 ounces of milk this morning, and 6 of 7 ounces in his other bottle, so he's had 3oz of milk.

When he first began nursery he struggled to take a bottle off a new person on his first day, but they rang and asked if one of us could go in and feed him - which we did. This allowed him to continue his day.

AIBU to be upset that he's hardly eaten or had milk all day? They didn't try his bottle again outside of the set 'milk time'. Fridays are very quiet and there were children in all day.

I think you're over reacting sorry.

He's had enough to live on. You can give him some milk now. The balance is moving towards food for sustenance over milk as they near 1.

He was offered something roughly every 1.5-2 hours, and presumably some of that stretch between lunch and dinner he was napping. I also think YABU. They have days like this, and then some days where they eat everything in sight. You'll go prematurely grey if you stress about all the 'lighter' days!

I think complaining at this point is premature. He needs time to get used to the new people.

They can’t continually keep trying him with milk.

and all kids have some days where they don’t eat much.

At most just speak to them and tell them you are concerned he didn’t each much. Or monitor the next few Fridays and see if it’s get better as he gets used to new people.

I can totally understand your worry but I do think YABU. He was offered enough, he just didn’t take it, and they all have these days sometimes. The issue with a nursery vs a childminder/nanny is that they aren’t the only one there and so they don’t get the kind of mothering they get at home or could get in another setting e.g. with a nanny

Sounds like he wasn't hungry

Okay, thanks all.

I think part of my upset is that he's now finally sleeping through the night, but only when he's had enough day calories. That's not nursery fault, but it makes me dread the night!

I'll monitor the next few Fridays and hope he gets better as he gets used to new staff.

@CannotBelieveImAskingThis

I hope he sleeps well tonight 🤞🏼

try to enjoy your evening but go to bed as soon as you think you could sleep.

Tbh though, I don't think you can expect much more from a nursery, at his age and it not being a new setting. If you want personalised care you need a nanny.

he'll soon get used to the Friday team xx