Daughter and her friend

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My daughter has just started school, before this she went to nursery and had lots of friends, and was well liked.

A girl from her private nursery is now in her class, we also know her parents, and we are all friends. The little girl has a few additional needs, and is now apparently not letting anyone else play with my daughter in school, lashing out on those who try, and has upset a few of the kids. My daughter has not upset anyone as far as I’m aware. This has come from other mums and also what my daughter has said. The teachers haven’t mentioned it. The other little girl gets picked up by wrap around type childcare so her parents are unaware.

I am not sure whether to bring it up with the teachers or her parents for them to keep an eye on it, or whether to just see how it goes. They are only little and still finding their feet, and it’s all new to them. My daughter seems happy and is enjoying her time in school. I kind of think it’s not my problem but then it is at the same time? What are your thoughts.

It’s not your problem unless it’s affecting your child. It’s only been week? Surely?
Give it some time and don’t get involved with whinging from other parents.
Do not speak to her mum.
If it continues and becomes a problem for your child, then you speak to school.

That’s what I thought, I feel a bit stuck in the middle but if my child is ok and not causing issues it’s not my place to get involved is it.

It’s not unreasonable for you to be considering the ins and out of this situation. School friendship groups are more flexible the younger we are so things might be perfectly fine. It’s understandable if the other child is super anxious and wanting to cling to a friend who makes her feel safe, so long as your daughter isn’t finding this too hard it may well be fine. Maybe there’s other ways you can find to give her the opportunity to mix more widely? Sports or other extra curricular activities? Just to keep her socialisation options open.

Had similar with my son. We just made sure he was aware that he's allowed to play with whoever he likes. At one point the school suggested he play with X on Monday, Y on Tuesday etc. No thanks, its not his problem.

DS was joined in reception by friend from riveted nursery. Friend was excited to see DS and would wait for DS to arrive every day by class door ( school run order meant they were there earlier) DS became overwhelmed even though he liked friend - he couldn’t even get to his peg on his own, DS told me there was a problem. I spoke to class teacher who was very kind and engineered DS some space.
saved the friendship, still friends years later!

Just make sure your dd knows she can play with anyone. ATM she might enjoy the security of her existing friend. At some point she'll want to stretch her legs at that point you need to have a chat with her teacher. Kindly both children need to be able to make more friends