Angry posters

[GranPepper]

I just joined mumsnet recently. I found another poster quite aggressive. Is this normal because I'm a polite person and don't want to engage with aggressive people

Just to add, visit the classics thread to see Mumsnet at it's absolute best 🌻

Yes.
You get the full spectrum

Plus it's easy to misread tone and think things are harsher than they were meant.

Plus it's very very different from, for example, FB which is all hun this and hun that and xxx so probably feels rougher in comparison than it actually is.

Yeah it's dog eat dog on here

It would be great if you could block people. Mumsnet take note!

A few years ago it was fashionable on here to swear a lot and try to be cool by putting up antagonistic but sort of 'wise / reality check' posts. It's carried on but I think these days it just comes across as polarised and lacking empathy rather than either funny or posts of harsh but succinct words of wisdom.

Some posters on here can be weirdly snippy. Just ignore them.

I've been here for donkeys years under various names. My advice is don't only look at the active threads. Have a search through the topics. When I started I was only on the pregnancy board, and then it was parenting....I'm all over now and more blunt since menopause! But I'm not nasty and have a trigger happy report' finger if anyone else is outright horrible and out of order.

Aibu is the busiest but also full on.

Some threads go like aibu when they're trending on active threads...hence my username 🤭

There are some polarising topics. Vaccines, Brexit, toilet brushes. Avoid them, and AIBU, and you'll be fine.

But given the disproportionate numbers of Mners who struggle socially, have no friends, are terrified by the school run, find the idea of visitors incredibly stressful, and seldom leave the house unless strictly necessary, it's hardly surprising that people are speaking on here the way they wouldn't in person. It's the internet. And some posters appear to have no RL human contact.

What always strikes me is not so much people being less tactful than tends to be required in a face to face situation or an ongoing relationship (I mean, that's the entire point of the baby names forum, as people know they'll get unfiltered responses, unlike their family and friends trying to be polite when they announce that the new arrival is called Flange), it's people who appear to have never been disagreed with in their lives. And I don't mean someone being rude to them, I just mean someone saying 'What you're saying is wrong for these reasons' and listing them.

I think Friday nights on Mumsnet can bring out the worst in people - so I generally avoid posting, but sometimes enjoy reading the random pile ons/weird nit picking (while also pitying the poor OP!).

I once posted a pretty innocuous thing on a Friday and had everyone telling me to shape up as a mother and to get my teen son to sit up straight.

A few months later someone posted a near identical thread and had loads of support and advice. I don’t think that poster was in an in crowd and I was in the out crowd. I suspect it was simply a matter of post on a weekday morning and receive sensible replies, post on a Friday and receive the wrath of women hitting the wine after a tough week womening!

I’m also new and feel the same way! If someone disagrees they can be rather rude sometimes. Feels like secondary school!

Report post and hide thread op x

This post encapsulated some mumsnet threads so well it made me laugh, there are some topics that you know from the thread title how it is going to go and yes, avoid or approach with caution wearing a hard hat