sending photos to prisoner..

[gameofthornes]

I need some advice, be it good or bad from MN. SS is in prison for sex offences and all his family are rallying round, poor vulnerable (insert name here),.

Before i totally lose my shit with DH and his family i just need views on something i've recently discovered.

DH doesn't think, and at the moment really isn't thinking about anything or anyone other than his poor wee son(34). Our relationship is under a lot of pressure because our views on this subject vary vastly but thats for another time.

Mooching about on the laptop today and i see there are 2 photos saved to the desktop, and i remember DH saying that Son had asked for photos to be sent to him in his cell.

There are 2 of these photos and are were taken before me and DH met and they are photos of DH, his 3 DS's and his DSD. The problem is, DSD has not changed very much, and she's one of those people who still looks like she did 10 years ago just older. DSD is now a prison officer! and it worries me that a) DH has sent this photo without her consent and b) anyone who knows her and sess that photo will instantly know who she is and who SS is?

AIBU by speaking to DH about this photo and its implications or YANBU by doing so?

Please help because i am sick and tired of this crap now and i know DH won't have even given the implications of the photo a 2nd thought and it feels like i'm currently having to think for about 20 people!

Have a conversation, just about the photo. Ask DH if DSD is aware that this photo has been shared. Leave any of your opinions about DSS out of the conversation.

Try to look at it as the best chance for him to live a better life after prison is if he has a solid support network around him and leave them to it.

I'd say that's a massive security risk for DSD. Some of the "regulars" may recognise her and word could her aroun she has a brother inside d, especially as he's in for sex offenses. I'd get that removed asap if you can.

I agree that if your DH hasn't told his DSD he has sent this photo, which includes her, to a prison inmate then he should tell her immediately.
It seems a really foolhardy thing to do.

I'd be worried SS has specifically requested it so he could prove his sister is a HMPO and hopefully use it for protection/special treatment in some way, so word would definitely get round!

i dont think SS specifically requested it, i genuinely think its a case of my DH isn't really thinking about anything other than himself and his DS. I'm thankfull that he didn't send more recent photos (i assume he has'nt anyway) which include myself and my DD's. I work for the Police and DH knows he must not send anything with me on and he's well aware of my DD's views on SS.

had a little chat with DH and as soon as i mentioned DSD and the photos he realised what he had done!

apprently said SS has not had access yet too his emails so DH thinks it might be possible to delete the one with the photo's on!

no arguements today thank goodness